Boyfriend is doing my head in- Help!?

Question

Been with him for around 6 1/2 months now, and even though the love is there- the spark isn't. I was depressed for a while and that had a big impact on the relationship including and now that i feel that im getting over that hump- everything is more apparent.
I have no real sexual desire anymore, the relationship is going stale because he isnt working and we never go out anywhere except to see his relatives or back to mine and watch TV. When we do go out, I end up paying for everything- while not a big problem, it does annoy me when we go to a restaurant and i'll have a salad and he'll have an entire chicken platter.

He also expects me to spend all my free time on him, doing the above or he feels like im indifferent about seeing him or that I dont care. He's constantly needing reassurance and affection to the point where he's missing me after a couple of hours or a day.

It's not like i dont love him, but im feeling suffocated to the point where i want to avoid him...Any advice?

Answer 1

You are being taken for granted. Speak to him about this. If things dont change (and they seem unlikely to), I would move on. You deserve so much more, and being single would be better than this. 6 months is usually a good time to gauge the quality of a relationship. Dont let things drag on and get worse. Good luck x

Answer 2

Well Sweet. Gosh why is he like that tho? Gosh, if he goes out with you then I would expect him to at least pay some (with him not working anymore) Heh! There are alto more things to do besides watch telie or similar. Like there would be nothing wrong with him showing you some true love and doing the things that you require with in reason that is!
Gosh again. Every one needs a break once in awhile from each other and if that was done then it would make coming together a heck of allot better.
That is my sort of advice but well I will keep an eye on here now for your further questions. Heh! I are a guy who has been single for over 14 years and I just can't find a true LADY for me but I have tried with no luck.

Answer 3

If you are feeling suffocated now and are bored and losing desire for him, imagine how you will feel about him after you've been married to him for a while. You should feel excited and happy every time you get together. Six and a half months isn't that long for you to be this bored. I suggest that you look ahead and decide if this is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Why should you waste your time on someone who isn't right when you can be with Mr. Right? (And also take into consideration that his time is being wasted too.) I think that you should give this alot of thought as to what you'd like to do one way or other without making a rash decision.

Answer 4

If ur getting to the point where you feel like you need to avoid him because he's being clingy then maybe you need to first ask yourself if you truely still love him, and secondly maybe talk to him about the problem and take some time out from one another for a few weeks maybe. Give you both time to reflect on the relationship and see what it's like without each other, that way u will truely know ur feelings for each other and hopefully can sort it out. Take care

Answer 5

You need to take him aside and tell him that the clock is ticking....he needs to get a job. The problem with not working is that you become the centre of his life, which is unhealthy. If he loves you and does not want to lose you, he will have a job by xmas.

Explain to him that it will not only be beneficial to him but also the relationship. Don't forget to tell him his lack of a job and clingy behaviour is killing the relationship. There is a chance he may be depressed.

Answer 6

This is something that should happen naturally, and willingly. There is no stupid thing where sex is involved. You experiment, and see what feels good, for both of you. You should also remember, whats good for the goose is good for the gander. Just tell him it is better to give than to receive, and see if he is any good at giving head. This is something you may really like. Don't forget about what happens when he cums in your mouth, if you are not prepared to swallow, tell him before hand, but try it at least once.

Answer 7

He needs to get a job. Tell him this. Its not your place to take him out. It should be a 50/50 thing.

You need a bit of excitement in your life and you wont find it watching tv. Hes obviously dependent on you emotionaly and physically so hes not gonna change his ways if u dont speak up. He needs to make his own life happen, not expect you to.

So, you need to have a chat with him with plenty of reassurance, and if things stil dont change then i would move on hun.

Answer 8

Talk to him! Tell him this has got to be an equal partnership (both paying for stuff), and that you'd like to go out as a couple.

I think the need for reassurance is stemming from the fact that he senses you are not happy, and thinks you may be pulling away.

Answer 9

You either need to tell him how you feel tell him you need your own space sometimes. you also need to tell him that if he wants the relationship to work then he needs to go out and get some £ as you cant be expected to pay for everything.
If he isnt willing to change for you then your best off out of it as he is suffocating and relaying on you.
Go out have fun!

Answer 10

Girl he is no good. Don't you deserve some respect? Your man is taking libertys and taking you for granted. No man worth his salt would let his lady support him! He's a no hoper with no ambition and he has taken advantage of you because you were depressed. Do good and get rid girl, you are worth more!!!