I've been dating a guy for about 4months, known him nearly two years. It's only when he's drunk does he talk bout "feelings". I'm the casual one in the relationship, and don't let on how I feel nor does he until he's had a drink. he mentioned the other night in a club after he'd had a few to drink "You know how you want to get married in ten years? well I want to get married within the next two years, I said what are you implying? and he said that he'd tell me later. The next day came and I said, you know what you said last night bout the marriage thing, and he said "what marriage thing?" "He's also said he wants a relationship wit me but it's always when he's tipsy. Do you think I should take what he said with a pinch of salt cuz he could be lying or should I believe that when he's drunk he's genuine with his feelings?
2006-12-07 23:28:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. A girl was singing to the music that night in da club and she was really bad, she was standing next to her and he said "You can't sing". And she couldn't, so that is a sign that he might be honest wit me
2006-12-07 23:42:15 · update #1
I have the same problem. I know its hard to belive them when they are drunk cos you always think they are just saying it for the sake of saying it. But you have to think that it comes from somewhere, maybe you should tell him how you feel and see what he says, either when driunk or sober. It is a hard one but you need to go with what you feel and what your gut is telling you to believe.
I was being told for months that someone liked me and i didn't belive him, it wasn't until i asked him when he was sober that he admitted it was the truth.
2006-12-07 23:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to run at the mouth when they are drunk, they tend to talk alot. I never take a drunk for their word until they are sober. Neither should you. And do you really want a boyfriend who is drunk all the time, I know I don't. There are a million guys out there for you. Make sure you are getting one that deserves you.
2016-05-23 06:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's telling the truth when he's drunk...you know the effects of alcohol to someone who has kept everything inside. The next time he's drunk and tells you that, ask him why does he always do that to you ? He'd probably tell you the reason. But i'm not telling you to give in to him when he's drunk, cuz that would complicate things when he's ok the next morning. Maybe, he's having a lot of conflicts inside him that is why he doesn't tell you he likes you. I just want to ask, do you think he likes you when he's not tipsy? Cause if you notice he does, i think it is ok if he's tipsy when he says that. You just have to let him speak out that way, he's just probably not courageous enough to say it.
2006-12-07 23:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by nozmiat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always heard what someone tells while they are drinking is truly how they feel. I would say he does care for you and thinks about going further with you...but for some reason he is scared to. Was he in a previous relationship that turned out bad? Most of the time ppl are scared to get serious when they have been hurt before. So..I think he does think about getting serious but is scared. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-12-07 23:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by raney1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do say that only drunks and children speak the truth. I'd listen to what he was saying but probably not bring it up when he was sober. It's nice to have those little gems to keep you happy on a rainy day. I've had freinds like that, one was tough as nails but every time he got drunk he would eventually get on to talking about his mum who died when he was little and end the night in tears and telling me that he loved me. Grain of salt for sure but keep note of these things that are at the back of his mind.
2006-12-07 23:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not trust any drunk mens word,wait for them to get back in their sain then talk about the things you wanted to tell him,hes not telling the truth if he said anything when hes drunk and then forgot after a day.
2006-12-07 23:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by AmandaNikolah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They always say you spill your guts when your drunk. I personally think that is bogus. I think you say what you think people want to hear. Oh by the way if he gets drunk often you might want to think about what you may be getting into.
2006-12-07 23:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by betty boop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He;s probably telling the truth when he's drunk/ The alcohol will help him let his guard down and he'll tell you how he feels.
2006-12-07 23:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its most likely that hes more confident when hes drunk to express hes true feelings.
2006-12-07 23:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by MizK♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear that people say the truth when they are drun.He is definately being honest with.You should be glad that he doesn't say negative things.You should give thought to the things he says .
2006-12-07 23:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋