I tried everything, told him I don't love him, but he just won't leave me alone, he calls me, if I don't answer he keeps calling like a maniac, he is so possessive, even threatens me to hurt me or ruin my life. He says he loves me but this is hatred not love, what can I do, please psychologists out there help me...
2006-12-07 23:25:14 · 21 answers · asked by fafita33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just leave!
2006-12-07 23:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel that he is taking advantage and squatting. There is good reason, you have great instincts. So follow them! This man may love you but he also loves the life you have created for yourself, and is making himself comfortable. You’re saying NO but you’re not ENFORCING it. This man can’t be trained and will not listen because as you said, he has no basic respect. So he must go! When he isn’t there change the locks. Take out a restraining order. If necessary change your phone number. It is imperative you take action now. By not saying NO you are saying YES. This is almost stalker behaviour. When you have changed the locks invite a friend (preferably male) to stay for a few nights until this man gets the point. He needs to go. NOW
2006-12-07 23:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order against him - its the only way he's going to take you seriously.
Good luck - been in that situation before and its not nice. Luckily I didnt live anywhere near him, he didnt know my address - only my mobile number so I just changed that and didnt go to the places where I knew he'd be and stayed away from the places I usually went to.
Sounds like a real psycho stalker guy and you need to seriously put some space between you. Guys like that WILL hurt someone to get what they want or even worse, when they realise it really is over. Please be careful.
2006-12-07 23:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soldier on .... whatever you do .... DO NOT answer any of his calls. If you answer once in one-hundred times, he will interpret that as a sign of your love for him. Guys like this are thick thick thick..... Avoid all places that you know or suspect he will be. Enlist your friends to make sure you are alone as little as possible until his attentions subside. Also, if he is threatening you, or has ever been physical with you, consider getting a restraining order to protect yourself. Kudos to you for getting rid of a loser like this.!
2006-12-07 23:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by yakimaniacs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very serious. I don't know if I have the right answer but you need to get a restraining order first. IF you can change your phone number, change your residence anything to cut off communications would be ideal.
This also will make him mad and like I said, I don't know if I can help but I do know you need to take his threats serious and protect yourself now! You also might want to check out protective shelters in your area...just call someone please!
2006-12-07 23:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by brightstarrs7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are several ways....
one is to kick him in the nuts
or you could just have a new boyfriend and have your boyfriend beat him up
just ask for help. let as many people know as possible.
im not a psychologist but i hope this helped
2006-12-07 23:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by COlder THaN AlaSka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure where you live but there are anti-stalking laws here, you might want to call the police too see if he has crossed the line.
2006-12-07 23:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by icman87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend & have him open a can of whipas$ on this psychopath. He will stop after he realises that you are a greater threat to him than he is to you.
2006-12-07 23:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby you don't have to get rid of ur BF for no good reason which you didn't mention but remember you get what you plant so don't be surprise when somebody is also trying to get RID of you thas all i got to say a WORD they say is enough for the wise
GOOD LUCK
marvellous
2006-12-07 23:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by marvellousdiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops and sign a complaint. Then, change your phone # (make it unlisted) and move to another state.
2006-12-07 23:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by Feeling new @ 42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order.
2006-12-07 23:27:04 · answer #11 · answered by Hillaryforpresident 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋