I never had a boyfriend before, I never got asked out by a guy, I never had a date to any dances, I never heard a guy say I was hot, I never even danced with a guy before, I never got kissed and I never went on a date.
I'm 16 and i'll be 17 in March. I feel so left out...all my friends have boyfriends or girlfriends. And if they don't I hear people saying that she or he is hot or they have danced with boys before and everything. I feel like the Ugly duckling or somethin.
2006-12-07 23:10:07 · 13 answers · asked by DreamfullAngel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry, you'll have all that as soon as you meet really nice special one for you!!!
Just don't think of yourself as lefted out! Be more confident in yourself!!! You are just like everybody else, even better!
Good luck
2006-12-07 23:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, do I know where you are coming from. All through high school I went through the same thing you are. I never kissed, had a date, or a boyfriend till I was in collage. (Not to say your life will be the same.) It might be you are more focased on your schooling and family then having the things your friends have. Remember also, that at that age some people are a lot of talk.
Just remember to keep your chin up. Like has been said, just because you haven't had any of those things doesn't make you an ugly ducking. Good things definantly come to those who wait. Looking back I am glad I didn't have to deal with all the teenage heartache of break-ups and stuff. (If you haven't seen it yet with your friends, just wait.)
Or, you can go for the good old standby and have your friends hook you up on blind dates. Maybe some of their boyfriends have single friends that would like someone to hang out with. If anything, you can gain a new friend out of it.
You never know what life has instore for you!
2006-12-07 23:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by cala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you know your not an ugly duckling, Im not an ugly duckling and I got my first bf and kiss at 20yo! im 21 now and let me tell ya i dont regret it! I felt so left out amongst my friends, i felt so bad that i couldnt join in conversations about guys but i knew if i just held in there i would find the perfect guy and i have.
Im sure yout thinking 'great, but i want a bf now' well let me tell ya something... you will find a guy or love really unexpectedly, it will just happen... like magic and as anxious and alone as you feel now, you will feel so happy once you do get a bf and none of what you use to worry about will matter.
You really need to figure out what it is you want exactly, is it a loving relationship or just a simple date? A loving relationship cant be forced or made, its has to be with someone you get to know over some time. If you want just a normal date then i suggest maybe doing something for yourself, treat yourself to a funky hair cut, get fit, wear light (not over powering makeup)... do something you wouldnt normally do and it will boost your confidence levels. Guys arent just attracted to pretty girls, guy also love girls with a great personality.
2006-12-07 23:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just shy. I would try and be a little, tiny bit more adventurous everday (in the boy department)) Nothing big, but just something. Maybe a smile or start up a conversation about anything (maybe just a few words). I don't know if this will help, but you can't always let them come to you! It may be intimidating at first, but soon it will seem like you've been doing it your whole life.
2006-12-07 23:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by tahoegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it! I was like that in HS and after graduation all my friends were tied down to thier HS boyfriends. The all envy my freedom. I used to want a boyfriend but now I just have fun and do what I want. After graduation it's a whole new world. College life brings new boys, new oportunities and a new life. Just wait a bit, the fun comes later!
2006-12-07 23:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by yeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those pervious answers are a wrap and hard to follow. Be true to yourself and focus on whats important. In the end you will look back and laugh. Your best years are yet to come, your "friends" best years will be thinking back on high school!
2006-12-07 23:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by lifeis2short30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a nice girl , maintain your reputation for another three more years , you will be the luckiest among all of your friends in the end . Now concentrate on your studies .
2006-12-07 23:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont expose yourself with this kind of pressure, you are still young and at this age all you have to do is to concentrate on your studies, happiness is not limited to having lover, in fact its a problem having relationship at an early age....
2006-12-07 23:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by sheikaella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not an "ugly duckling", someday you'll meet someone, you're still young.
2006-12-07 23:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can suggest you do is enjoy being a teenager while you can. Don't worry, when you time comes you'll know.
2006-12-07 23:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋