All that I've been thru has caught up with me and now, all I want to do is hibernate and not talk to anyone! Only one of my 5 children will be around for the holidays, (one of them is in the middle east and I worry constantly), I went thru a horrible breakup after two years in a relationship(3 weeks ago), then I get the flu which won't go away after 2 weeks, I have delt with depression before but meds the doctor gives me makes me gain weight(3 years ago I lost 95 pounds) I just need someone to talk to before I go crazy!
2006-12-07 22:53:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sit down and make a list of all the things you are thankful for.
Make another list of all the fun, positive, supportive people you know. Spend more time with them.
If you go for counseling, make sure you are learning solutions and coping skills, not just building another long-term dependence that you will miss. Consider cognitive based therapy.
Agree that pills are a bad deal. They almost always lead to physical addiction where withdrawal can be worse than the initial problem.
Take care.
2006-12-07 23:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mark P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, not all medication for depression makes you gain weight. In fact, there is one that will help you to loose.
However, that doesn't help your depression problem.
I had that flu myself, and I had it from the middle of October this year, then I got sick again with something else, and am just now getting to feel half way normal.
In most of the 12-Step groups that I have been a part of, and a lot of the counseling that I have had for my own depression has been for the purpose of the other person to help me get my thinking straight, instead of in the toilet. (I don't mean that as an insult) If our thinking is making us depressed though, then our thinking is in the toilet. (smile) We are concentrating on the negative in our lives, instead of what is positive. Positive thinking goes a long ways when "bad things" happen in our lives. One saying I've heard is pretty good, "this too shall pass," or " I can put up with this for a moment, but not for a life time," or "don't forget to smell the roses," "take a deep breath." All of these self talk mottos works if we allow them to.
If only one of your five children will be around for the holidays, then be GRATEFUL for THAT ONE! One is better than NONE! I told an old-timer one time about "me worrying about my child" and even though some worry is healthy and okay, but if it takes all of your thoughts, it only brings you down, then "it only happens in your head, and doesn't do any good for anyone."
In AA I learned, it's not what's happening around me that makes me depressed, it's the way I think about what's happening around me. Granted, now I am on medication for depression and I do think better, but even with medication, you still have to work with your thoughts so the depression doesn't take over. It can and will take over your whole life, like you described, "not wanting to talk to anyone, to hibernate etc. I also want to sleep all the time when I am depressed.
You probably got the flu after the break up because your system was in a weakened condition, making you more suspecticle to flu's and colds. By the way, break up's are never any fun! And they are always depressing!
I recommend you find a counselor to talk to , if nothing else a crisis hotline! But then talk with a doctor and ask for some medication and let him know that you want something that won't make you gain weight, and let them know that you have lost 95 lbs. and don't want to put it back on, and I know he can prescribe you something that won't make you have weight gain.
But please, GET HELP!
2006-12-07 23:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselling is the way to go. My brother suffered (note: past tense) from depression and counselling helped him so much.
I hate the idea of popping pills for stuff like this - it doesnt solve anything and only ever provides a doped quick fix. Its about as productive as turning to alcohol or illegal drugs.
Best of luck. And feel free to contact me and i can tell you more about how my brother coped.
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2006-12-08 04:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks. im at work now, but feel free to email me ANYTIME or add me to your messenger list if u have one. im not a counselor, but at least im a new person to talk to =) . life's hard sometimes, and it all came at you at the wrong time. everything will fall into place, it always does. enjoy yourself and the holidays as much as you can, and hope for a better 2007.
2006-12-07 22:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-07 23:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋