2006-12-07 21:04:59 · 6 answers · asked by amu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Amu,
The first rule in love is trust and when you have trust there is no question of jealousy.
Speak to him and tell him that you don't like him talking every now and then about your past. For you its over and you want it to be over for him too. Tell him that his thoughts are going in the wrong direction. You have nothing to do with your past than why is he bringing up the topic every now and then. So just ask him to take a chill pill and learn to trust the one he loves.
And if he cannot trust you than this relationship is not going to work its better to walk out of it than making yourself miserable.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-12-07 21:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. If you've had a dodgy past then he probably feels totally insecure & probably feels that if you cheated on past partners then what's stopping you doing it to him. I know this because this is exactly how I felt when I found out about my partner's past. Lot's of reassurance will help but ultimately it's only him who can break these feelings of insecurity & jealousy. I managed to do it by realising they were my insecurities & actually had nothing to do with him, but then I am a very strong person. I have been with my partner 4 years now & we are expecting our first child in June & are very happy. But when I was insecure there were many times when we nearly split up for good. I hope he overcomes his fears because it's really not a nice place to be. Suggest some counselling if he's that bad.
2006-12-08 05:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now do u wish u listened to your mommy & aunties on this subject?? We try to protect the young ladies so that they won't develop a "past"! This is what you get....
No one can live down their past doings...but God/Allah washes them all away. If you have been forgiven...don't look for forgiveness in man.....look for a man who knows the teachings...then start your new life.
No one has the right to judge you...
O! and it's NOT love when your partner does those things honey....
2006-12-10 11:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is it that he remembers?
Why can't he get past it?
Have you told him that it bothers you?!?
Somethings are devestating to a relationship - like cheating - and while i belive a couple can thrive after it they BOTH have to be 100% willing, and 100% honest with each other and themselves.
2006-12-08 05:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are u continuing with a guy who doesnt and wont ever trust u>?
2006-12-08 05:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by El-rene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bemembers ???????? or remembers ?
You made me laugh ! well done ! hahaha....
Anyways, he is using you. Leave him otherwise you will bemember (remember) his past.
Best of Luck !
2006-12-08 05:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋