my brother is older then i am..im 17 in high school and he's past college. however, whenever im in my room he always checks up on me for some reason. THerefore, i tried this test. I pretended to sleep on my bed when he came in, but then he checked my blinking and eveyrhing. When that was over, he started to touch me. u know..THAT kind touching. is tis a way a 25 year old should act?
2006-12-07 20:48:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
how should I handle this?
2006-12-07 20:52:01 · update #1
Dont let this continue, You need to tell someone! I personally know that abuse is very difficult to talk about, but it will get worse if it continues. Tell SOMEONE, it can be a parent, respected family member, clergy, school nurse(it will be kept confidential) or anyone else who can HELP you. Please get this taken care of. You deserve to be safe in you home and in your family, get help for your brother, he needs you to be willing to get other people in to help him.
No one should ever do THAT kind of touching to their family member, He needs help.
Please Tell someone!
Praying for you.
"MOM"
2006-12-07 23:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by mom2-4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Talk to your mother and tell her you want this stopped. Put a lock on your door is necessary. You can buy a fairly inexpensive doorknob set with two keys to it at WalMart or somewhere like that. You just need to measure the length between the center of the door knob to the edge of the door. Most of the lock sets have two different sizes (one is like 2 5/8 and the other is like 2 3/8 or something like that)..
It is out and out wrong for him to be sneaking into your room and doing what he's doing.
Again, talk to your mother. You could also just tell him to his face, "Look. I have tested to see what you're doing when you sneak in my room; and I'm ready to press charges against you if you ever, ever, come near my room again even if I'm not in it."
Your mother may ask him to find his own place once she knows about this; but there's the chance she may do what so many other mothers do in this situation and find it too hard to believe he's doing what you say he's doing.
He will probably, of course, deny that he has done this. He may say you're lying or imagining sick stuff. That's what people do when confronted. You and he will both know, however, that what you accuse him of is true; and he will have to live with knowing that. There's a chance he could get uncomfortable enough to move out even if your mother doesn't tell him to leave.
Stand up for yourself. If you don't get anywhere with people in your own home then contact someone at the state's children's services department and let them handle the situation. You may need someone who will speak up for you if, by any chance, your mother won't.
Remember that he's looking like a giant, sick, jerk, about now; so you have to stand your ground and tell whoever you need to tell without your feeling at all embarrassed or uncomfortable about it.
2006-12-07 21:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,that is called being molested.Tell your mom or Dad,and see a counsellor immediately.You did'nt do anything wrong so don't hate yourself,but do seek counselling,this is not a topic to discuss with your friends.
2006-12-07 21:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know how he touched you exactly, but if it was below the belt or under ur neck then i suggest you confront the world with it. if not then he is just worried about you. he knows how guys are and wants to know you are a good girl
2006-12-07 20:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should react imeediately to ur brother, if u dont like to hav any other relation with ur brother. i know some people r havng sex with their blood relation. u should take more care, n this. at any time he may come to u. no problem it wont continue, if u react. but u should react! if nothing s working out, tell ur parents, they r there to protect u no?
2006-12-07 21:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by amsu06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not brotherly-acting!! On the contrary: he should talk about you as 'ugly', even when you're a beautyqueen. THAT's what brothers do.
2006-12-07 21:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by jee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh heck no tell someone because that is just eww gross send his *** to jail to something tell your parents just do something put a freaking lock on your door if you have to make him go to a club and get laid just do something understand
2006-12-07 20:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by korakikio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents immediately. What he is doing is wrong and invasive.
2006-12-07 20:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by artistry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋