in my community, the finest of young women and men are found amongst those who desist from premarital sex. why

Answer 1

Because it is the right thing to do. You should wait for he right time when to do it and offer your relationship to God. It may sound religious but I have seen it work all the time. Most of the relationships that were offered to God or to Allah or to Yahweh ended up really well.

So whether you take my advice or not,coz most likely you will think it is conservative,you can try you really feel like doing and wait for its ending.