My Boyf is driving me mad. He asks questions all the time about how I feel about him and if he gets a answer he doesnt like he sulks. He goes through my things looking for anything he might not like to challenge me on. Just last night he asked me where all the valentine cards he got me where over the years, whether I had any other feelings for any other men and are we still going out with each other and do I love him still all back to back. this is a daily thing with lots of other questions. he said this is just his personality but its driving me mad. He checks my phone also when I leave it around.
2006-12-07 20:35:57 · 27 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's a crazy MCP. How can you continue to take his nonsense? From your description, dont think he's going to change, is HIS PERSONALITY. Can't imagine what if you marry him, he probably tie to you the chair and make sure you can't leave the house.
If after numerous serious talks and he's not improving, you better move on, there are still lots of 'normal' guys out there!
Take care!
2006-12-07 21:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by Blues 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very insecure. You say that he has been with you for years, so was he always like this? If not then did something change in the relationship to make him insecure???? The other possibility is, if this is a new thing then maybe he is trying to tell you he wants out of the relationship, by making excuses about how your not treating him right etc.
2006-12-08 04:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by james l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there well i did have a b/f that then turned into my husband and after 21 years of that same stuff is becoming an X-husband .......this is mind controlling games that he is playing with you .......if he doesnt trust you now he never will and im so sorry if this upsets you sweetheart but is out to control you and as time goes by the games that he is playing now just get worse and worse take this advice from me sadly it took me 21 years to waken up to what he was up to but that is how things started with my soon to be x husband...the sulks could be about ant thing from the time we where suppossed to meet to me wearing a different coloured top than the one that he suggested that i wear.......more like told to wear the way the hair was lying the make-up.......and the list just goes on and on and on ......get rid of this piece of slim and you will find someone that loves you for being you ......i have found this and believe me i really wish that i had realised what was happening to me all those years ago .....oh his other favourtie line was" they are just jealous of what we have baby ??they want us to break us up " well i should have listened i would have saved myself a lot of heartache and tears .......please look after youre self and good luck with this slim ball he has no respect for you.......take care xx
2006-12-08 04:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bf only does the phone thing. he reads my messages, answers my phone (at times when i'm there) and tends to ask who is this or that and etc. just let him know, material things do not make a part of what is in your heart. besides him you have a life that was before him and cant drop it coz he is here all of a sudden. what happens if you end? you left with nothing... if all else fails. tie him up, smack him silly and with frustration... yell "dont you get that i love you"
soon as he says he gets it... the rest wil be history. lol
2006-12-08 04:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Reb Da Rebel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity!
2006-12-08 04:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, your guy is feeling SO insercure! My boyfriend used to be so jealous whenever i speak to guys, just normal speaking. I got so angry that we argued all the times over the same issue too. Show more care & concern for him, tell him you love him everynow & then.. he will be ok after sometime. If not, leave him.
2006-12-08 04:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by Joeann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has a guilty conscience and is trying to find fault in you to make himself feel better. If thats his "personality" then maybe it should be yours too. Start digging through his sh*t and his wallet, ask him all the questions and pry into his life. See who goes crazy faster, you or him.
2006-12-08 04:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean and you both need to sit down and chat you need to tell him that you love him like you said you do and that he needs to trust you because that's one part of a good relationship is trust. he should not check you phone when you are not around because it is invading your personal space you both need to have a long chat try asking him the questions see if he likes it good luck and all the best
2006-12-08 04:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Fuzzywuzzygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a freak! You need to learn immediately not to tolerate this. Go! Get away! Do not settle for some weirdo who spies on you! Think about why you have been willing to take this treatment. No one should be held prisoner by his/her lover.
2006-12-08 05:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by lovely-to-be-me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl, but he doesnt give you space and freedom while annoys you like a "girlish-girl", keep asking not making sense questions such as "Do you still love me"., "Do you still keep your birthday presents that i had gave you?" Probably freaking annoying like a woman. Something's wrong with your bf's hormon.
2006-12-08 04:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋