I broke up with my ex in June. We were with eachother for nearly 3yrs and it ended badly. We just stopped contacting eachother because we were fighting so much and he was making me feel miserable. Now I'm not sure if it's because I've been with him for the last 3 Christmas's in a row, but I'm starting to think about him alot. I think I might be missing him but I know we're no good for eachother and can't be together. I keep dreaming of him at night and when I wake he's in my head. I wish it would go away as I just want to get on with my life. Is this a natural thing to happen after 5mts? Would you think it's because the holiday season is here again and he's just on my mind. I often wonder if he's thinking about me too... How do I stop thinking HELP!
2006-12-07 20:30:49 · 13 answers · asked by Soph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can make it through the holidays, it will get a lot easier. Spend time with your friends, your family or at work, and try to keep your mind off him. There is a reason you broke up and until some time is between you and the breakup, you will feel these pangs from time to time. Good luck. I have been through this, and it's very difficult.
2006-12-07 20:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way you can find true love with the memories of your ex cluttering your thoughts. The following steps will help you to move on.
Instructions
•STEP 1: Talk to your friends.
•STEP 2: Get clear with your ex. If there are a lot of unresolved issues involving money, possessions, etc., clear them up.
•STEP 3: Distract yourself. Movies, sightseeing, outdoor activities, games and a good book are all possibilities.
•STEP 4: Take up a new hobby or enroll in some classes.
•STEP 5: Exercise - put your mind on something new, like training for a marathon, improving your tennis game, or working on those abs.
•STEP 6: Work hard. Work can be a great distraction, especially if you feel like you're accomplishing something.
•STEP 7: Indulge yourself. Chocolates, massages, facials, shopping sprees - whatever helps make you feel good about yourself.
•STEP 8: Date other people.
Tips & Warnings
•Clean breaks are generally better. Take some time away from your ex, even if you plan to remain friends. Try not to have sex after the breakup.
•Spend time in places where you might meet interesting people, either online or in person.
•While you're upset, don't do anything you'll regret later.
2006-12-07 20:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really cool that you are talking bout it.This is normally the first step.Do everything to get him out of your system.Talk about him, write about him or even sing about him until when you will feel like you can't talk about him no more.It is very normal and understandble to miss someone you loved for 3 years.Love is not a bulb you will switch on and off.You definately too a long time to know him(and there moments you will feel like you didn't know him at all) and it will take a while for the reverse to happen. I could advise you to have achange of environment cos most of the time afrmiliar things or places will remind you of him.Love is like a bad habit.You get addicted and getting rid of it requires you to do it little by little.
All the best girl.We are behind you 100%.It will get better after a while but he will always be with you.
2006-12-07 20:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
often times there are songs, places and times of the years that bring us to remember those good times with loved ones. has we progress through life and make the changes we naturally wonder how those people that affected are life are doing. Yes I would say its natural to remember someone, how ever you also have to remember that you are moving on. If you are without a special someone this season, remember that your family is always there and they are usually a good source of help for moving on.
I often do the same as you and very curious how the other person is doing but sometimes we should just let a sleeping dog sleep and walk on.
Wish you luck.
2006-12-07 20:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Been real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep reminding yourself about why you split up it the first place..Do you want to be miserable again? I'm sure it because the holidays are approaching and you remeber the good times.. be strong!!
You need to get your mojo back before you can be fully over him.. Make a goal to get a couple of number from cute guys before now and end of the year - that should give you a boost!!
Good luck.
2006-12-07 20:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by AC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear it's because you are not over him yet .you still love him even after 5 months but yet you know that he's not the right one for you .
So my advice is to move on with your life and make yourself busy with other things and dont think about your dreams when you wake up in the morning .you'll be ok I hope!
2006-12-07 20:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to keep thinking of him. You were together for 3 years and thats a huge chunk of your life. It is harder at holidays (I know from experience) but there is nothing to do but try and get on with your life. Eventually you'll think of him less and less and then one day you'll notice that you didn't think of him at all. It's not wrong to think of him, but try and do something to take your mind of him. Go out with friends, watch a movie, etc. Enjoy your singledom!
2006-12-07 20:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by Shar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey,consider it the holidays.Don't let the expectations of X-mas make you go back to a real jerk.You said it was "bad".Now is a good time to list all the reasons why,and carry them around in your pocket when you need a reminder.
2006-12-07 20:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is the season of love - thats why ur recalling only the good times-u gotta make peace with urself and move on.
the last thing u want is, to throw urself into his mean hands again...u deserve a great guy...wait it out , reflect and pray,dont rush backwards to the past(even if its sooooooooo attractive and emotional) . the only way to gho is ahead,this christmas giv urself the gift of peace ....
2006-12-07 20:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by El-rene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you keep on thinking about your ex because the two of you did not break-up "properly" or officially. Maybe the two of you need proper closure.
2006-12-07 20:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by cynique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋