my best friend had an affair with my other best friend and ended up pregnant, while her husband was in iraq, now should she tell him anything even though she had an abortion to get rid of the baby?
2006-12-07 20:17:54 · 12 answers · asked by ish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is hard because we all deal with things differently. In her shoes I would tell him because through the years I have learnt that you shouldnt have secrets from your partner as they tend to catch up with you in the end. Karma is a great thing...
2006-12-07 20:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honestly think she needs to tell him.This is a major issue.It could come out at any time,and if he finds out ,by someone other than her,that would probably kill him.It is already bad enough,but he should have the right to decide if he wants to remain in a relationship after this.It really could work out okay,and may make the marraige stronger,later,after the hurt subsides.He may realize that since he was away,and everyone makes wrong decisions,that he can forgive and move on and be happy with the woman he chose.This is all speculation ,though.People are all different and react different to things.I guess since she knows him best then she should decide whats the best thing to do.I always believe honesty is best,though,The truth always seems to reveal itself,even when we don't want it to.Goodluck,I truly hope it all works out
2006-12-07 20:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! That's a Tuffy!! Are they still seeing each other? When is he gonna get back from overseas?? Does he have a violent temper?? These are some relevant questions.......
Also...Many Women who have Abortions often suffer from depression afterwards (among other medical problems). How will she tell him what's wrong when he asks what is bothering her in the future??
Here's some idea's...1) She should stop seeing the "other guy"..(if she hasn't already) 2) Yes....she should confess to him...but it should be face to face (assuming he is not violent and she would not be in physical danger) 3) She needs some counseling...bad! I am sure she is hurting now and the best thing for you to do is to let her know that you are still her friend...you will not leave her...and then tell her the truth (and that ain't gonna be easy.......I wish you luck!)
2006-12-07 20:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she tells him it will ruin the marraige but a relationship cannot survive with out truth. its a bad thing to have an affair but we are only human yes she should tell him and they should have a long talk and if the marraige is not over then they will probably wind up in marraige counseling but the truth needs to be out and everyone needs to have a talk. the husband will be angry and hurt at the least so you need to be there when ALL of them talk you would be a referee but there is no sense in keeping this all locked up because it will come back to haunt you and all come out in the end and if she keeps it locked up it will kill her slowly thats all i can tell you. i hope i helped some
2006-12-07 20:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by korakikio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She plays - now she pays by carrying a dirty secret. She didn't even have the sense to use contraceptives while cheating on her husband. This could come back to haunt them later when the guilt gets to her. The only way to truly keep a secret is to tell no one. She should never have told you. Let her decide. Mind your business.
2006-12-07 20:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They worked via an affair, and you think of she does not have any thought he might proceed having affairs? i could be careful leaping in right here, she will possibly no longer decide for to know at this factor. possibly she is actual lacking the indications, too trusting, etc, yet there is likewise the possibility she's in denial and could no longer decide for to determine it.
2016-10-14 06:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by juart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, she needs to talk to him. but maybe first, she needs to talk things through with herself! asking why she had the affair - was it an unfulfilled need missing in her marraige, loneliness, lack of self esteem etc. it might help her work out what she wants with her marraige, rather than fight for something that has already died.
2006-12-07 23:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should tell him. she can't hide this from him. Then she should left the decision for him self. It is highly probable that he may file for a divorce. And your friend should accept this because it is not his fault it is entirely hers.
2006-12-07 20:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she should tell him. He has the right to know.
2006-12-07 20:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by Shar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be honest with him.
To tell him she is a baby killer and a whore.
2006-12-07 20:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by popo dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋