ok the girl i like has been having some problems. her mom gives her a lot of trouble when she daes. then her ex bf is trying to get back with her n giving her a lot of drama over it. i told her i liked her too, n she said there was a chance that we could be together but not to count on anything because she just wants to take a year long break until shes 18 before deciding on who she likes or watshe wants to do. personally, thats ok with me because i hope shell be with me in the end, mayb even ooner. but as far as a year goes...wat do i do for a whole year???? how should i act towards her, wat is it that i do? how do i simply wait, is waiting even a good idea? she told me there was a chance, n she would never lie. but wat should i do?
2006-12-07 20:06:48 · 11 answers · asked by kkong25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be her friend, don't give her more pressures. What she wants
to do sounds wise, she needs to sort her head and life out.
Be there as a friend for the good times and to support her during the bad. Relationships form best over time and if things don't go the way of a closer relationship in time, then maybe its not meant to be. If you really care about her - isn't she worth taking a chance and waiting for.
2006-12-07 20:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Philomath 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want the truth? I It m ight hurt but my guess is she wants out. Space? For a year? You are right -that is way too much. If you didn't tell about the ex then there is a good chance that she might be confused with her situation. She must be asking for some space to solve her problems and think things over.
Now what do you do? If you really love her then it is time for you to convince her that you are better than the ex. Spend more time with her now. Forget about your other friends first and concentrate on her. Take her out on a long date till the ex gets pissed. Do things that would make the ex mad.But don't get into trouble that is a sure way of losing her.
Fight for your love. Don't let it slip away but wait do you have something already? If none,asking for a break means you are busted! Still don't fret there are way more fishes out there so relax and don't take things so seriously.
2006-12-07 20:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by wolfass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, i've heard someone say. But then again, if you are absent for too long or on too many occassions, you tend to go unnoticed. You will still have to be around, just that you shouldnt press her for dates. Talk to her occassionally. Just casually call her to find out how she is. Sometimes people are in some sort of difficulty and the person who at that precise moment responds to her plight will most certainly make an impression. If you are not there, chances are you wont be in her thoughts either. Besides, if you keep yourself away, just because she wanted a year to pass, that might give room for some other relationship to develop. Guys are plentiful, remember! And some of them are gifted charmers. So if you really want her, keep at bay. Not too near and occupy her space, but not too far either as out of reach.
2006-12-07 20:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by Panirselvam A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll paraphrase what she said: *I like you, but I'm not ready for a relationship right now, I want to figure out who I am and what I want first and a lot can change during the course of a year, so I'm not making any promises.* Appreciate her for being honest and not simply stringing you along. Live your life as fully as possibly. Be a friend to her, but don't shut other people out of your life in the meantime. If you happen to fall for another girl, don't feel guilty about it. Enjoy it.
2006-12-07 20:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by adeleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. before each and every thing, no you need to no longer watch for her. i'm confident that she is a effective lady and all, yet what does she imagine you're? you need to attend a 12 months? A 12 months? sorry chum, yet this lady isn't that into you.. Thats announcing it bluntly. you're saying she needs a 12 months lengthy damage earlier for the duration of 18, meaning she is 17. I dont imagine she knows what she needs. appears like you a effective guy, you've been there for her. You deserve someone who is going to do an identical for you. someone who shouldn't make you wait. shortly reported... DONT WAIT!
2016-11-24 22:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang around and be available to her when she needs a shoulder to cry on or a party person to hang out with. Don't put any pressure on her or give her 'helpful' advice; just be her 'buddy' and she'll eventually need you to comfort her one night after her ex-BF is a deck and her mother bugs the living shed out of her...and you're in! But, don't count on her committing to you, her life's just too complicated to expect her to want more drama at this point in time.
2006-12-07 20:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chance is probably small.........if you know in your heart it isn't ........WAIT. She will come around sooner than a year, if it's you she wants. Be a friend to her and be there for her. Any man can win any girl over. And you sound like you like her alot!
2006-12-07 20:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lesley C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she really likes you, she wont ask a break. tell her to make a firm decision other wise you might waste one whole year
2006-12-07 20:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Nishan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you said was,she told you "not to count on anything."Sorry,but there ARE others cool,fun ,and hot chicks out there.Do not waste your time waiting.Good luck.
2006-12-07 20:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its her loss if someone new takes a liking to you within that time.
2006-12-07 20:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋