i really, really, really, like this guy but he is also a mate, i dont think he feels the same way about me because, he has told me he doesnt want to lead me on because he doesnt want a gf, but thing is we have had sex, on more than one occasion, and i really dont no what to do i like him so much, can i get him to like me?
2006-12-07 19:53:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a boy, so let me answer (!) If he's a mate who you've slept with, and he says that he doesn't want to lead you on and doesn't want a girlfriend, then it sounds like he's being pretty damn honest with you.
You can't force him to fancy you, but the more you hang out with him, the more chance there is of sparking something off with him that he might not realise is there at the moment. Do you know why he is so certain he doesn't want a girlfriend? Maybe he was burned badly in a previous relationship and isn't ready for a new one? Talk to him about it - if you're friends, then first and foremost you should be able to talk to each other. Good luck with it and remember, don't lose a friend because of sex....
2006-12-07 19:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by PETER G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep him as a friend and dont have sex with him again hes just using you. You could try tell how you feel but if he still says doesnt want a gf then just walk away from him if he knows how you feel about him and you say you are friends then he shouldnt be using you in this way!
2006-12-07 22:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the sex and tell him if he only wants a mate then there is no more sex. This will make him think whether he wants more than this. Us guys are pretty straight forward really. If this puts him off even being a mate then he is probably not the guy you think anyway, and if it doesn't put him off maybe it is the kick up the butt that he needs.
2006-12-07 20:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Campbell M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is to just forget about this guy. It only shows that he does not have any feelings for you. He just wanted to use you only by sleeping with you. Nomatter how hard you try to get him to like you you will never win him. But anyway, if you succeed in getting him to like you, the relationship will only be for sex and sex only coz how can he say he doesnt want a g/f and yet he slept with you on several occasions. I know you really, really, really like this guy but be strong enough and move on. He is not the only guy in this world. Nomatter how old you are, your Mr Right will come and you shall realise what you have been missing. I wish you the best my sister. But please do me a favour by leaving this guy alone. Goodbye!
2006-12-07 20:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it hurts to hear it. The truth is, you'll get over it. Realize that this person, no matter how much you like him, is not going to reciprocate. You can't make a person love you. And you can drive yourself crazy trying. You deserve a partner who respects you and cares about you. You want to feel secure and valuable, right?
Remember this: At first, you'll experience denial. "It's not really over," you tell yourself. Now tell yourself that it's not your fault. You could have been this or that - but you weren't. Don't dwell on your imagined shortcomings.
Go to your friends or family - those who accept you and will understand your hurt. Take up a hobby or sport. Get your mind off your breakup. Stay busy - this is key. You will get depressed. It's normal. You will get angry; this is normal too. Decide that you wanted it to be over. Convince yourself of this.
You might try finding someone else - and some people will suggest this - but it's not very healthy and won't really be fair to the new person. Give yourself time to pull yourself together.
Don't get obsessive. If you feel that you can't get over it by yourself, get professional help. You don't want to turn into a stalker.
2006-12-07 20:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I say the best thing to do is chill on this guy for a while. You can never force a guy to like you. But you can bring his true feelings to light if you take a different approach. Find another guy friend to chill with and bring him around this guy you like. Find a good, handsome really cool kind of guy that you actually enjoy being around. If this mate of yours actually likes you, he will get jealous. And he will want to get rid of this other guy and get back in the picture so he might do whatever it takes, including making you his girlfriend.
2006-12-07 19:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no way to make someone like you. Pretty much when a guy says he doesn't want a g/f but is still available for you guys to have sex he is using you. Don't let him do that. If you want to stay friends with him that is your choice but don't let him use you. I know it is hard when you really like someone but a lot of times if you act not so interested they come around.
2006-12-07 19:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by remsing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he really don't want u all he want is sex. U r what people call a booty. When he get horny calls u. That's not a relationship. That is wasting your time. Find some else to like. To keep it real he don't like u he like your *****. U his side line hoe. Don't be that. He probably got his main already.
Or u can stay with him and he will give in sooner or later.
2006-12-07 19:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by chinquittia_john18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 17, she went out with a chap who was a good mate, but it all ended in tears, and even though they are on speaking terms she said it was the worst thing she ever did as they just dont talk as they used to, mates are mates best to keep it that way hon
good luck Bab
2006-12-07 19:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so maybe he does like you but really doesnt want a gf. i think you shouldn't sleep with him again and then maybe he will remember what he's missing, if not then he probably isnt worth having as a bf. good luck.
xx
2006-12-07 20:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋