My bf or ex bf, whom Im trying to work things out with, still doesn't let me sleep over his house or even go to his house. it's been over 2 months (around the time we broke up) that he doesn't let me go over. It's because I dont' get along with his roommate but i've asked him to tellme what we can do to solve the problem and he never gives me a solution. he just avoids the topic. i'm getting sick of it now, especially since we're trying to get back together, so i asked him about it tonight and he said "why do u have to start trouble". so i kicked him out of my house because he refuses to find a way for me to be able to go over his house.
AM I wrong or right? If he isn't letting me over, i'm starting to feel it's something more than just issues with his roommate and that pisses me off. i've never not been welcome at someones house in my life.....
2006-12-07 19:12:36 · 20 answers · asked by coochie1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your right, its more than what he's making it to be. More than likely he's hiding something and he doesnt want you to find out. Kick him to the curb because you will save yourself the heartache instead of finding out something that will hurt you in the long run
2006-12-07 19:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think there might be some reason why he'd want to hide you from his roommate? This sounds very fishy to me and I don't think you are starting to trouble. Do you think he may have another girl on the side and he's worried about his roommate telling you about her or her about you? Or worse that she may show up at his place while you are there! The fact that he is avoiding this topic and not even looking to resolve it when you are trying to get back together seems very odd to me and should raise your caution flags!
Honestly the only time I've ever had guy act like he was hiding me from anyone or not let me come over to his place was because there was another girl around.
Feel free to drive past his place and see if anything is going down. Or wait until he's at home and not responding to your calls and pop-in... but be ready to find something unpleasant going on. ;)
2006-12-08 03:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, if I had a gf that didn't get along with my roommate, I'd tell the roommate to go piss off!
But, is there some reason he has to live with this roommate? Is he gay or something? If he's stuck living there, I'd say maybe wait until he can get out if you really really tihnk this is the guy for you.
If he's not stuck living there, well try again to explain to him calmly and without yelling that you are very uncomfortable not being welcome in his house. I wouldn't give him an ultimatum so to speak, but if the guy really wants the relationship he's got to be willing to work it out with you. If he's not willing, walk away, he's not the guy for you and you gotta keep looking.
If he's gay, RUN NOW!
2006-12-08 03:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by markawfg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice guy! NOT!! Where's the love here? The obvious, there is none!! Doesn't he pay half the rent? If so, is he scared of his roommate? He must be scared his roommate will say something to you, and he will have to stand there looking like a pussy!!! WOW-don't know what to tell you!!! Sounds real weird to me! Does he take you out in the open, or are you just a bootie call? Just wondering! Does his roommates really know your his girlfriend?????? Good luck to ya!
2006-12-08 03:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a bit of an ego. Give it a couple weeks or so and then try talking with him again. When you try to rush into things you get terrible results. If you are truly serious about getting back together, don't cloud your thoughts with your anger or frustration, focus on getting back together, which is the most important thing.
2006-12-08 03:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by aznraver1022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are kinda getting out of hand-- usually when guys go out of their way to not let you come to their house... it means they don't want you there-- guys could give a f*ck less about their roommates if it means having their girl come over.... i think you need to let it go- he's probably just using you right now, i don't think you should try anything else with this guy he sounds like an @ss to me... i hope it works out for you cuz that's not a fun situation... but really really really you need to find someone else cuz this guy shouldn't be worth your time because it seems like he's making a valid effort for you not to be worth his time
2006-12-08 03:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it has anything to do with u not liking or getting along with his roommate. He could be bringing other girls and doesnt want to get caught ( rmember you two are not fully back together yet). Think about it, what other reason is there.
2006-12-08 03:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% right - but now its your turn to play hard to get. Remeber the man is the hunter. Do not ask if you can stay at his place but do not invite him to your place. SEND HIM HOME.
Be unavailable for a while and then be an absolute temptress and then retreat - he will beg
2006-12-08 03:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To find out the root of ur problem. I need to know whether his room mate is a male or a female. If it's a female then I think you know the answer to ur problem. If it's a male, then I might have change his "preference".
2006-12-08 03:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've almost told my ex girl friend to "get the f uck out of my house" when I was mad, but thought better of it and said nothing. You're not wrong for giving him the boot, but perhaps he is trying to keep you in the shadows?
2006-12-08 03:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by sunsetconmartini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋