Ok im not ugly at all..my question is i attract alot of guys but i dont like to because i get scared alot of times! what if someone follows me! one time i was in wal mart and a guy kept following me i got so scared i had to have someone who work there walk me to my car! so what can i do to make myself seem unattractive?
2006-12-07 19:04:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be a body builder.
2006-12-07 19:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hetero men are attracted to the opposite sex by virtue of their physical appearance - the first sexual contact people make is almost always visual. So the fact that guys stalk you around WalMart shouldn't surprise you. They/we are programmed to do that sort of thing - if we weren't, humans would have died out eons ago. Facial hair is a big turn off as it connotes masculinity so you could try a fake beard I suppose. The problem there, of course, is that there are probably a number of facial hair fetishists including some lesbians who might think that that was a 'hot' look. Perhaps you walk around in skin tight clothes, bare midriff, camel toe, etc., so you could loosen up a little but if you are as hot as you appear to suggest, it's unlikely to change things. The fact is that the first visual contact is almost always with the triangle formed by the eyes and lips and a male will scan that triangle many times in just a second or two looking for signs of sexual attractiveness. Breasts and butt may get an occasional glimpse initially but it's invariably the face that reels 'em in. Perhaps you need to master your fear of being looked at rather than taking the unusual step of trying to look ugly. And as for being escorted to your car by a Wal Mart employee - that's got to be scarier than being stalked around the store!
2006-12-07 19:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by mr_lickspittle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question you are really asking is "how can I be less scared of men". You don't want to be unattractive to men (unless you actually HATE them... and that would be a whole other issue).
You say you get scared a lot. The reason you are scared is that you have been taught to be scared of males. So you think "well if males stop showing interest in me, I won't be scared". There are two possible solutions here.
FIRST: Don't hang around scary men. Don't make yourself interesting to the wrong kind of man. Dress CONSERVATIVELY. Don't go around dressed in a whore's uniform. Attract the RIGHT kind of men by showing respect to them and they will be delighted and treat you like a lady. So first... BE A LADY.
SECOND: WHO said men are scary? That is frankly nonsense. Men are physically powerful, it is true. But most men (not boys) learn the seriousness of controlling themselves by the time they are 12 years old. Because they KNOW how much damage they could do and that frightens THEM. If it weren't for the legions of GOOD men protecting our society, the bad men would have free reign. Unlearn the fear you have been taught by all your nonsense TV, Magazines and other rubbish. STOP listening to them and go and spend some time with good men. So second... LEARN TO ACCEPT MEN.
2006-12-07 19:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Solaris 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Start covering yourself with piercings, get half of your head shaved and dye the other half purple or green, wear black make-up and dress Goth...bathing is optional. If you want that little "added touch" hang around with ugly people that reflect the attitude you all share and pretty soon you'll be an outcast that homeless bums wouldn't want to bother with. The only thing that might follow you from that point on is rats or stink.
2006-12-07 19:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off.. why are you scared? are they creepy guys? why would you want to be less pretty--- that doesn't seem normal... alot of girls wish they were better looking and you want to be what? more haggard looking.... well it's not hard to make someone look like sh!t... just wear nasty clothes don't do your hair and don't wear make up... try living like that for a while-- i bet you go back to wanting to look pretty again!... but anyways good luck with the creeps-- maybe you should always have someone with you if you're really that scared
2006-12-07 19:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nessa, we all put out subliminal signals. think about what signals you're sending. How do you feel about yourself? Are you looking? Do you want guys to follow you...just not all guys? Whatever messages you're sending, they're being picked up by these guys. So examine what it is that you're really looking for. My guess is you're not in a great relationship and are sending signals looking for some guy. If your heart is full, your body won't be looking.
2006-12-07 19:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk around with this tale of terrible luck taped to yourself. ppl will be turned off immediately. good luck with bein less pretty. im so happy im not too pretty now. if u need a follow up, ill be at the mart buyin crap i dont need in the first place
good luck
2006-12-07 19:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by luckdragon888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to be UNATTRACTIVE!! i am not ugly but ... most women spend their lives to look attractive! be yourself, act normal and natural. ignore the men following you
2006-12-07 19:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellbeautifl try pickin your nose ,scratchin your butt once in a while.maybe dress down u know dirty shirts ripped pants,ever thought about changon your perfume?You know oood of puke,sent of cow pasture,something like that.so hit those dumbtsters and good luck
2006-12-07 19:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U NUTS!!! I was always like that, you just do what u said, have someone always watch out for u!
2006-12-07 19:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋