okay i've known this guy for like 10 years. he's been my roomate for the last five months. we've fooled around a few times nothing serious just casual sex.
we had plans to have dinner together on wednesday. but tuesday night i invited a guy i'm seeing instead. i didn't see him that night so i called him wed morn to tell him i had to change plans because, he's like no big deal i actual invited a girl over to meet me here at 4. i know i did the same thing and i'm not jealous of her but i felt upset he wasn't even going to tell me.
okay stupid thing number one.........then for number two tonight he tells me while i was out to dinner she was over to the house. this again pissed me off. i know i don't like this guy for anything other than a friend. why do i feel so pissed he's having her over. this is his house too. part of me knows i'm being stupid. i just don't understand why i act like this. i told him we'll get through xmas then talk. what the hell is my problem??
2006-12-07 18:43:51 · 20 answers · asked by liketoplay420 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i see ppl are saying i'm jealous. part of me is but that's why i'm writing. i don't know why i'm feeling this way. i don't want to be with him. it's me not wanting it to go any further. i've made it clear to him. i don't like him on an intimate relationship level. purely sexual.
2006-12-07 18:50:05 · update #1
You're in denial......not to be stereotypical, but a lot of women have trouble maintaining casual sex relationships. Women are typically viewed as emotional creatures and that emotions usually spills over into that gray area created by casual sex. Also, women are control freaks. The combination of the two is what has you acting this way. True enough you may not like him like that, but your expectations have changed since you two started having sex, that combined with you wanting to control the situation (and not being able to) is what has you acting "like this".
2006-12-07 18:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's normal. don't be alarmed. you just want to control him and feel like YOU are the more important in his life. at this point you both probably are trying to prove to the other that you don't care too much, but really you both do. 'open' relationships are quite difficult because you have to accept yourself as an equal amongst others. try not to freak out about it.... go for a walk, think it through until you feel at peace with yourself and whatever happens. 9 times out of 10 these things end up in some sort of drama scene, but they really shouldn't, if you're honest.
2006-12-07 18:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by yjovian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just have a little bit of feelings for him beacuase you share something intimate with him. It is only human nature for feelings to pop on you like that the good thing is that you have an awarness of it. Now what is left is for you to push those feelings away and continue being roomies and live life.( When your lease is up I am looking for a roomate and you seem to be the coolest one I've heard of. J/K HA HA HA)
2006-12-07 18:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by CRUNKMAN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex with someone changes things, even though you think it is no big deal. Girls are like that...jealous. You never sleep w/ roomates because stuff like this happens. It seems that you want him when you want him and when someone else wants him, you get jealous because it's not about u anymore.
2006-12-07 18:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by jaded 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he said that because you invited the other guy and he's trying to make you jealous by saying he invited another girl!maybe he really likes you and deep down you like him too,and you don't want to accept it.
Your the only one that can tell what your real feelings for that guy are!! GOOD LUCK!! ;0)
2006-12-07 18:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like to me that it is more than casual sex. You like this guy. If you care this much you like possibly love him. 10 years is a long time to know someone. If you trust him enough for sex, you may be in love!
2006-12-07 18:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Allie K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just chill out. Enjoy the casual sex, and realxxxxx.
2006-12-07 18:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by united_nations_pilot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok! Thats not love or so... This is actually human nature. When you are close to someone (even if you dont like or love him), you dont like another person to be closer to him as happened in your case.
Moreover, if you love that guy, then the answer is self- explanatory.
2006-12-07 18:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont wait for his problem! Treat yourself like a common farm animal and masterbate like it is going out of style!
2006-12-07 19:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple, you feel that way cause like it or not when girls give themselves over sexually to a guy, they give heart and soul as well not only body. like it or not you bonded and connected with him emotionally, not only physically, not you feel rejected and replaced. There is no such thing as casual sex, you can't separate your sexuality and feelings, impossible.
2006-12-07 18:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋