How Do I Ask Her Out?

Question

I want to ask this girl out, because my formal is coming up and I want to know if she will atleast go with me on a date first. She knows I'm bi and she is too. But I just don't know how to bring it up. I'm so confused because we have known each other since 5th grade and I'm not forsure how to do it.

Answer 1

My best friend and I are very different. I am outgoing -- he is shy. A couple of years ago, he asked me a similar question about a girl he admired from a distance. I simply said this, "every day you don't ask her out is another day you could be spending with her instead of her spending it with someone else." This has been my motto throughout my dating life. Though not always successful, at least I won't ever have to worry about wondering about "what if?"

Your situation is a little more complicated, but not much. If you are both bi and are out, there are few, if any, social risks of approaching her. The only thing you need to ask is, "can our friendship or I withstand a rejection?" Chances are that you can. I found the best way to broach the subject is in a public place where the person doesn't feel isolated and on the spot. The other person should never feel pinned or trapped. Once a comfortable environment is established, just ask. You could say, "What are you doing friday night because I would like to take you out on a date?" Direct and to the point. Some form of this directness should be used even if you put it in your own words. Just make sure to smile and be as charming as possible, that never hurts.

If she says yes, then great! If she says no, then you must be willing to smile graciously (though it may sting like crazy), tell her "okay, I needed to ask for me," then continue on your time with her.

It sounds simple enough but the best remedy for awkward situations is just to be direct. If the friendship is robust, it will withstand the weight of this question. If it isn't, this would be the time to know.

In closing, you should repeat the phrase, "Tempus fugit," (time runs away) and the line from The Music Man, "You pile up enough tomorrows, and you'll find you are left with nothing but a lot of empty yesterdays." I hope this helps.

Answer 2

If you are sure she is bi, this should be easy. Just ask her if she would like to have coffee with you sometime, and set the date. If you want to talk about issues of dating women, you should have a pretty good setting for doing that while having coffee. If you chicken out and don't work up the nerve to talk about it, don't worry. You will have plenty of other chances if you continue to get to know her better by hanging out as friends and talking.

Answer 3

Well, i individually feel that women will have to routinely ask boys out, simply motive i'm a man and dont have the center to invite them out myself. But i feel why a number of the men are frightened approximately asking is approximately what unusual rumours can be round as quickly as he asks. Sometimes it is helping if the lady asks, it'll deliver the boy a bit of vainness.

Answer 4

For not knowing each other since 5th grade, u 2 have been keeping up on the sexual part! JUST ASK!!!

Answer 5

Just ask. What's the worst that could happen. If you KNOW she is bi, then go for it. You have nothing to loose.

Answer 6

just ask, no harm no foul. theres nothing to really loose, because if she only considers you as a friend then she will say no and then you still have her friendship. if she says yes then bonus!
but dont miss out because you will always wonder if you dont!

Answer 7

approach her and ask her out......simple...remember my friend there is a winner inside u,,,,,...