my boyfriend likes to go to the bar with his friends...he says it's boys night out...I think of a boys night out to go play pool, go golfing etc. The bar I think is a place where only single people should go to, or if your not single you should be going with your significant other. I mean why do guys like to go there on their own? what do they do ? I can't imagine them dancing with their guy friends! I'm I right or should I give him his space.
2006-12-07 18:31:44 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry it is the club! should I be worried if likes to go to he club with his friends?
2006-12-07 18:35:47 · update #1
They go out to get out and do male bonding. Which includes but is not limited to: Drinking, making lewd jokes, making rude sounds with their bodies, leering at women, making fun of each other, talking about cars, and let us not forget eating greasy food.
Yes, give him his space. You go out with your girl friends don't you? He should be allowed that same indulgence.
2006-12-07 18:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, not knowing you nor your boyfriend, I'd like to think he's just going to the bar with his buddies, who might be single, and having some drinks. It also depends on the age. Playing pool and golfing, as you say, might be a boys' night if he's passed the bar-drinking stage. So I'd say perhaps give him some space for now and maybe tag along if his friends are bringing girls with them, too.
2006-12-08 02:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by sonrisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there other reasons why you're worried about this? I wouldn't, if in other respects the relationship seems fine. Explore your own interests, go out with the girls. Maybe go to a bar. Is the bar really a single's bar? There are a lot of different bars - many even have pool tables.
2006-12-08 02:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by kathryn3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should be mad. Bars are not just a place to go for meeting people. For guys a bar is a place to go to chill with the boys, drink in a safe environment, and maybe watch a game. Not all people go to bars to dance.
2006-12-08 02:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Carlos P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys enjoy a guys night out, this is perfectly normal. There is nothing wrong with it, or unusual. Now if he is going out clubbing with his guys and looking for women, sure that's a problem. But just going out to a bar with his friends and drinking, that's fine. If you object to it, you may seem to restrictive and unreasonable to him. This could ultimately lead to the end of the relationship. No guy wants to feel trapped by a jealous and restrictive partner who dictates their social life. That comes later, after marriage ;)
2006-12-08 02:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They go to the bar to have a drink. I've been married for 15 years and still go out for "boys' nights". Respect your boyfriend's personal space.
2006-12-08 02:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if his friends are single that might be a problem. if with coworkers chances are that things are ok. he could just be going because that is the only time that they can spend time together. you would be amazed at what men talk about. yes they will talk about models if some jerk brings it up but most of the time they are talking about sports, work and nagging partners. when my husband worked in a jail i knew that he had to look through the girly magazines that went through the mail. its just something that you have to accept. they look at girls on tv and then some. as long as my man doesnt look at other women for too long or comments in front of me about someone that he thinks is hot when he is talking to someone else im ok with it. if he loves you everything around him wont get in the way of your relationship. mention to him that you would like to go out once a week with another couple if he is going to go out with his friends. maybe he feels that your not having a good time. there has been times that i was told that it was a guys night out and he later told me that some of the guys had brought thier wifes or girlfriends. if they had left them at home they would have been on their poop list. i trust my man and i expect him to trust me. when the girls are together we do the same thing....talk talk talk. but then my friends are married. are his? if not and its the same guys everytime be wary. funny about them dancing together. when totally drunk they do hung each other and tell each how much they care about each other.
2006-12-08 02:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. Boys night out should be more organized get together: poker, sports event (sports event watched in a bar is okay), etc. Just going to a bar with a bunch of guys to drink is just going to create trouble.
2006-12-08 02:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is your boyfriend and still likes to go out with his friends, it is probably good to let him go. If it is totally innocent, why not have his friends meet up at each others homes and enjoy a few beers while not excluding the girlfriends? I would say, he appears to not be devoted enough to you . If you continue with this relationship without expressing your concerns. you will end up being lonely and resentful. Make the choice and tell him what you need in a relationship to continue. If you choose to bail on him, you will have only lost someone who cares too much for himself and not enough about you.
2006-12-08 02:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out for a boys night once and a while is fine. If he goes out all the time, then you might want to talk to him and let him know how your feeling. Trust in a relationship is very important. I understand why your mad. I'm a very jealous person and I worry when my fiance goes out, but I don't get mad at him for my insecurities....but if he started going out everynight, then he'd hear from me, lol.
2006-12-08 15:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by CPR2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋