I am 22 and married my husband wants me to always give him a bj. I really dont like it and dont want to but what is the big deal with men and bj's? it may be a stupid Q's but I had to ask it :)
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2006-12-07 18:29:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is not a dumb question, is a valid one. They answer i think it is, is that we, as men, like to have what other men do and have, so if my friend tells me that his girl does it, i want that too, i mean we as men are very jealous of other men sexual experiences, he just dont say it, that's why we have to do and have to have what the other men do and have. Also it has to do a lot with porn, belive me porn is like the "so-called- bible" for guys, we spect our girls to act like the ones in those movies, what we dont get is that they ARE ACTIN, is not real, they get paid to do that...i mean bj is a really close personal thing that a women does for her man, but there's men out there that have turn that thing into a dirty-must-have sexual act...
2006-12-07 18:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Darksied 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perfectly valid question. Many women feel the same way. Most men enjoy bjs, many women enjoy doing it, many don't enjoy but do it anyway and many simply refuse. Talk it over with your husband and consider marriage counseling with a sexual expert...if the two of you think it is serious enough. Consider purchasing some books on sexual positions and practices. There are multiple positions, innumerable things a couple can do that give each other sexual pleasure. Explore alternatives. There's more to life than bjs, but you have to be willing to experiment. Most people consider experimenting to be enjoyable. Try it.
2006-12-07 18:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand this please, it's not the act per se as much as the submission to the act. Can't explain it (at least not briefly) but of course bj's feel good but in many ways it's a control thing. Many men feel dominant or in controld when a woman gives them a bj. Again it doesn't hurt that it feels good as well :) But as a married woman I'm sure you knew what you were getting before you said 'I Do'. Also marriage is a give and take thing, I'm sure there are things that he doesn't like to do but does them for you (and not necessarily sexual, could be something like shopping or something).
2006-12-07 18:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to be very simple. Men Likes BJ's becoz in this way the grip of the palm can be reduced and released during seduction. U know always that men love tight holes... so as u mentioned that u are a married girl so its obvious that ur hole has no more attraction as compare to a vaginal. while haing sex if you want to avoid BJ.. then i must prefer you to use some tips to tighten up ur hole, coz once u do the same .. He will not force u to do BJ okkk
2006-12-07 18:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mr XXX 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well...Here's a few thoughts.... 1) Your question is not stupid!!
2) As a male..I can tell ya I like a good BJ as much as the next person.....but...3) I wonder if there might be something else going on here.....Are Yall really connected? Emotionally? Spiritually??
That might be one reason why you you don't like it....Are you receiving as well as giving?? That could be another possibility.....We all like to be intimate with our partners..but it seems that males spell intimacy S-E-X often......I hope that gives you some food for thought...
2006-12-07 18:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's what he likes. If you two start denying each other of needs too much, the marriage may fail. I'm not saying that he will divorce you if you don't do this one thing, but don't start denying him of things. We wonder why women want certain things, and it don't make sense to us either. We just have to do it sometimes. Have him give you some also.
2006-12-07 18:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive been married twice and had a few girlfriends. none of them were into it either. seems your in the majority. id bet that most guys who say they get bjs on a regular basis are lying. if you dont want to then dont. he'll learn to live with it. if he quits going down on you because of it then your even.
2006-12-07 18:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You married too young. Start sucking, or start to file the divorce papers; you can save time that way.
2006-12-07 18:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by united_nations_pilot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because men loves it when a women can give them good head
expecially after a hard day at work its very relaxing!
2006-12-07 18:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a more intense physical sensation. Basically, it feels good. Not too complicated.
2006-12-07 18:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋