My boyfriend has always been expressive saying he loves me. One night about two months ago, he had a single tear running down his face one night and I asked what was wrong. He said "I'm just crying because I know you don't love me." I didn't know what to say because I wasn't ready to say it yet, but I did feel it (unfortunately I had some past baggage at the time). I know now that I should have said it, but it's all hindsight now.
I recently told him that I love him though (about three weeks ago). He said he was happy because he never thought I would say it and that this changes everything. Then he said he loved me, but he needed to think for awhile. Well, he hasn't called or returned my calls in almost two weeks...
What do you make of this???
2006-12-07 18:20:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's an actor & should be in the movies,,lol.
2006-12-07 18:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the other answers he either A. Needs a lot of reassurance B. May be questioning if you actually meant what you said or C. Is testing you or possibly punishing you now for not returning his affections immediately the first time around. If you love him reassure him of this. Explain to him that you had some baggage before and that you didn't want to tell him you loved him until you were completely certain. You wanted the words to be completely true and you needed to work out some things before you could get to this point. This should convince him everything is fine and you're feeling are true. You can either try to tell him in person, write him a letter, e-mail him, however you can get your point across.
Don't let this guy make you feel guilty or jump through hoops all the time though. Granted it may have hurt him that you couldn't return his feelings but by crying about it it was like he was trying to guilt you into loving him and that's not right. Be honest but if he still expects you to prove yourself and constantly validate his feelings and yours he may be more drama than he's worth.
2006-12-08 03:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEIRD. just let it go. my thinking (and i don't wanna sound negative) maybe...he just wanted to "get somewhere" with you. It sounds like something a little teenage boy would do: constantly tell a girl he "loved" her so she would...be overjoyed and "take it to the next level"...but you, being the good girlfriend you are, took those words seriously and the relationship slow...the way it should be (good job with that btw...)...and because you took a while saying "i love yous"...he figured he couldn't get anywhere with you and you're not an easy girl. The fact the he doesn't return your calls means he's pretty much done with you. If a guy really interested and cared, he would have gotten back to you a long time ago and doesn't leave you hangin. It's okay - you seem like a good girl and you'll find a much better guy - GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-08 02:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be questioning why you said "I love you" and what are the reasons for you taking so long to tell him those words. Here's the thing - since he's probably going to ask you (when he does contact you) Why, What etc. Just explain to him that you wanted to make sure that what you were about to say was true and without doubt. If you do love him - this can be your cop out - If you don't love him and you're just saying it so his feelings don't get hurt - I suggest you tell him that you don't love him.
He's gonna call - Don't be scared. Just sit back and be patient.
2006-12-08 02:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be anything
My two best guesses:
1- moved on - gave up hope on you and you were too late
2- was all about the chase. not fun for him anymore now that he knows you like him
note: loves a big word, anyone that uses it often and early is either obsessive or putting on a show
2006-12-08 02:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by LOFT1009 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds way too high maintenance in all honesty.
Tell this drama queen to get over himself, and seek some counseling for this baggage of his.
2006-12-08 02:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds emotionally unstable. Sounds like he was trying to get you to prove something to him. Why would someone want to hear I Love You if the person doesn't mean it? Once you said it, suddenly he's unreachable. Sounds like he got what he wanted so he's moving on?
2006-12-08 02:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by sunny_tennessee_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...its kinda similar to my prob...anyway i think u should give him some time...but 2 weeks..lol..its A BIT too long...y don u call him back and tok to him? oh ya sorry i juz re-read ur q, he hasnt replied you...well dats sth really funny..he's the one who said love you 1st..now he's the run trying to avoid you...dats really perculiar..all i can say is, give him one more week if its still the same den screw him or if u really 'love' and miss him...go look for him..i'm sure u know where he lives?
2006-12-08 02:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you probably hurt his feelings and he has everyright to be. It sounds like your full of drama and he saw straight through you. I think you need help on your issues before you start dating again. But on the other hand I think he needs to man up as well.
2006-12-08 02:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by danielschmidt94521 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st it sounds like he had low self-esteem, BUT then? He is playing a GAME to find out what is going on with u or he is just having fun.
2006-12-08 02:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb hes just an extra sensitive guy and needs lots of reassurance. and when u werent giving it to him, mayb he thought u lost interest in him. so mayb hes reconsidering u and him....
2006-12-08 02:26:00 · answer #11 · answered by *lil miss* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋