I had a big argument with my friend the other day. She accuses me of not being open to her, and I accuse her for not trying to get to know me better. Is it my fault that she never asks about me personally, or is it her fault for not asking about me in the first place? She says that it's just the way she is. She expects people to tell about themselves to her if they are comfortable talking to her. She doesn't feel like she should have to ask people personal questions because she doesn't want to be nosy. But, I'm not like that though. It doesn't seem like she really cares about me at all if she doesn't even bother to ask me more personal things other than just the typical "how was your day?" questions. Contrarily, I'm always the one that asks her about everything. Which is why she enjoys "talking" to me so much. So, who's wrong, and who's right? What did I miss here? Help me guys... :( --I've tried talking to her, but she thinks that I'm calling her self-centered and insensitive..:((
2006-12-07 18:16:05 · 8 answers · asked by haithere_us 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from what it sounds like, she does seem a little self-centered. she wants to talk all about herself ( most women's fav hobbie ) and then just ask you the basics as a courtesy then when you want her to be more interested in more personal things about you and accuse her of not getting more intimate, she gets all bent out of shape - this proves the selfishness and anything else she says is just an excuse.......if she was such a great friend she would know you very well and this wouldn't even be a topic to discuss
2006-12-07 18:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! Sounds like yall really need to work on your communication skills. Males and Females often see things differently. ....
Instead of talking to her.....try listening. After the tempers have cooled down (both yours and hers)....Tell her that you would like to work on your communication with her. Tell her (calmly) that you feel like she doesn't care about you when she doesn't ask you about what is going on in your life. .....and then listen!
Tell her how you "feel" at the moment when you are in the conversation.....Females often love to talk about feelings....and that is a foreign concept to us males!! ...but it might help bridge the gap between you two.......Hope that helps,dude!!
2006-12-08 02:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be her Friend if that's what she expects I think she expects to much, but that up to you. Something found, is that girls like closeness and intimacy, but wanting to know everything I think theirs trouble on the way.
2006-12-08 02:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Roman O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have a meaningful relationship with a girl, you have to learn to talk about your feelings. It is not up to her to prize this information from you as if you were an oyster. Tell her how you feel and especially, tell her how you feel about her.
2006-12-08 02:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...less talk makes them more attractive.
2006-12-08 02:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys ar supposed to be closed women are supposed to be open.
2006-12-08 02:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by michael h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the good way to do.. PRAY FOR HER.... cz God will answer your prayer,, He will, b'cz He is an everlasting Father...
2006-12-08 02:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by rock_teenz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the way girls are
2006-12-08 02:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by t-crisis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋