After breaking up with my ex for 5years. We are 1st love to each other 4 almost 5years together. But nw we seem to have lost touch. (although we have each other's contacts) Sometimes , I'm feeling we are v near to each other but far to meet. I am the 1 who end e relationship, cos i am really young at tat period of time (18yrs old) , my life is a just full of enjoyment with all my peers tat's y caused my relationship to end. It's my fault for not knowing how to balance. He do have a stable relationship right nw, so m i. But what can i do to make myself feel more comfortable? After grown up, tink back, i am still feeling quite guilty to him. Pls advise.... thanks.
2006-12-07 17:57:46 · 11 answers · asked by kudos Qi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that it is more of individual feelings. In any relationship there is no such thing as right or wrong. When we first start a relationship, we always want it to end happily. But did we think that if our relationship fails can we face each other? Normally we don't until the day we beak off and normally the one that initiate may feel guilty towards the other party. But there is no point hanging to a relationship when things don't work out well for us.
So sometimes we cannot feel guilty for certain things but it is always not preventable in us
2006-12-07 20:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, and it is OK to have feelings for your first love. I am 49 and still love the woman I first loved when I was 16, but have put it in perspective and cherish those feelings that I had for her, and all the women that I have loved. Feeling regrets and sadness is not helpful, so try to remember what was good and discard the bad as that won't help you at all. Move on and grow little sister........
2006-12-07 18:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just wasnt meant to be for yous. And no matter what the reason was for yous to end this, the thing is, is that it had to end. Its hard to get over someone who you have shared a long time with, five years is a long time. But look back on how it made you strong and you learned alot from that relationship and you are taking what you have learned to the next relationship. dont look back on regreats look at what you got now, and focus on the future!
2006-12-07 18:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are a few things to consider. First, you are exactly where you should be. You are in the exact realtionship you should be in at this moment. Your life is perfect...even to the aches and pains you are feeling right now. Consider that everything you experience is filtered through your own operating system. That system, yours, has been evolving over your entire life...and will continue to evolve as long as you live. Every experience, good, bad or indifferent, is filtered through this system and evaluated. You are the one who decides how you are going to feel. So, if you feel poorly, it is becuase you have chosen to feel that way. If you decide to focus your feelings on positive things, you will feel positive. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-07 18:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thought u are very comfortable with him right now, because if you was not comfartable with him u arebreaked up with him five years ago.Because its not easy to have or maintain 5 years relationship with loving person.
2006-12-07 18:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by vicky k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to bad hes taken try to find a real man this time out hope that helps.
2006-12-07 18:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by michael h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
juss forget abt him and move on with life . U have got life to lead .. Life is what u make it gal .
2006-12-07 18:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life, your feeling, your love....just do accordingly to your heart.
2006-12-07 18:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you have to do.
If you still love him, get back to him... If he loves you you will be together.
2006-12-07 18:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by Lovelin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it..!
2006-12-07 17:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by mn n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋