when my hubby and I were just dating, she cought us naked in bed, watching a "skin flick". she lectured him about it later (it's not right, you're a christian, etc etc), and now of course, we're married, but EVERY time i see her, i releived the moment when she walked in on us and saw what we were watching.
any ideas on how i can get past this?
it's been 3 years since then. 3 or 4 maybe even
2006-12-07 17:51:46 · 16 answers · asked by chapped lips 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Visit her more and spend more time with her and change those 'awkard' memories to new 'happy' memories.
2006-12-07 17:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before my hubby and I were married I was in the room across the hall from his mom's room and she ran across the room naked. The only this I can say is YOU NEVER GET PAST IT. lol I know this doesn't help but sometimes you just can't forget about something so when it comes into your head just force yourself to think about something else. Or get her aside and talk to her about it, get it off your chest once and for all and you shouldn't have to have it weigh on you all the time.
2006-12-07 18:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that I am laughing right now, because that is so something that would happen to me given my luck. Unless she alludes to that particular event, I think you should just remember that the world doesn't revolve around you and she has probably already moved on. She was probably more embarrassed than you. If you still can't move past it, you may just want to never see her again but I think this may cause problems in your marriage. Maybe you can conveniently get a great job out of state? Something to think about.....
2006-12-07 17:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by RockabillyBanana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it as a funny thing that had happend in the past not a tragic thing. Laugh about it, and move on. Who cares if she saw you, yeah of course at frist i am sure it was nerve racking, but i am sure that when she was young she did things like that too. Once you have kids and if you ever walked in on something like that i am sure you would react to them like she did with her son. She was just shocked and of course she didnt know what to do, so instead she took it out on her son. But that was a while ago, like i said i am sure she is over it by now, and shes laughing about it inside too.
2006-12-07 17:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to get past it. Remind yourself that every human being has sex at some point in their lives and how you and your husband choose to do that is your business, not hers. Sex is a part of life, you know that she apparently did it or you wouldn't have your husband so she's no different.
Just keep telling yourself that, besides if she's as self-righteous as she sounds, you'll do way more things to disappoint her and this will be long forgotten...My husband's parents are divorced. I have two mother in law's- count yourself lucky!
2006-12-07 19:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by sunny_tennessee_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her and get it out of your system. Say "every time I see you I think about the time you caught us in bed. Are you still angry about that?" and when she says: it's long forgotten, you can go on. When she says "oh you pervert woman! I'll never forget what a heathen my son married!" you might consider walking into her room one time, let's see how heathen she is.
2006-12-07 21:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by jee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first time i met my husband's mom and step dad things were fine. The next morning we were sort of messing around and the step dad walked in on us. so i feel your pain. it's been 13 years since then and once in a while i still think about it. don't talk to her about it, you'll just stir things up again. It just takes time, sometimes a long time!
2006-12-07 17:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by thegilchristgirls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must catch her doing something embarrassing. Hopefully not naked cuz, eew. But something so you can feel like she doesn't hold something over you. Remember, your hubby was her baby, she must have been shocked! You must learn something about her so you can block your thought with this new one. By the way, Ha ha ha ha that's so funny! I love it!
2006-12-07 18:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahaha, thats hilarious! does she have a sense of humour? maybe it could be a family joke... you know, the embaressing one at the xmas table, instead of it being some terible memory. maybe she desnt remember. or maybe when she looks at you, she sees you naked everytime- thats about the worst it can get, which isn;t too bad
2006-12-07 17:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to avoid seeing her or if that's impossible....
JUST GET OVER IT!!!There is nothing wrong with that and it doesn't matter now,after so many years!
2006-12-07 17:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Soulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋