It seems like all the guys who I date are such jerks. They're downright mean. Why is it so difficult to find a decent, christian man. I honestly don't think I want to date again. Such bad luck. Any of you other ladies have problems finding a decent man who doesn't lie, cheat or treat you badly? I wonder if I'm just a jerk magnet. I would like to know I'm not alone here!
2006-12-07 17:48:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The one thing I don't like about answers is the assumptions. I never said I slept w/any of these men. I didn't. Someone else said something basically to the effect that I want a man to wait on me hand and foot. No, I just want a man who will love me and love God and not be rude or crass.
2006-12-07 19:08:01 · update #1
I had that problem before I got together with my husband and he still has his days where he is an *** but I think I found the happy medium for myself.
You are the magnet because you are attracted to men with this disposition, even if the most wonderful man in the world walked into your life right now you probably wouldn't give him a chance in hell only because he wouldn't have that one thing that makes him attractive to you. It's nothing you really have control over and probably has something to do with what you grew up with or an event in your childhood. The only way to fix it is to learn from the past and don't consider your attraction to a man until you have spent a good amount of time dating or befriending him. Falling in love shouldn't happen right away and taking the time to get to know someone without a physical connection but just emotional will turn into the relationship you desire. Good luck.
2006-12-07 18:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same experience with women....
I think if the shoe which hurts others will hurt you also. the break up is always painful for both sides i am not saying this b'cos i am a man. i am saying this as a human. but that's the way life is every person has his or her role to play in your life. So just move on and be happy and make others happy.. Hope you find someone who will tell you that you are not a jerk, but you are such a lovely person. It is only time. Just believe in your self.. God Bless you...
Sorry to answer the question as i being a male and felt to answer this question
2006-12-07 18:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should reevaluate what you look for in a man. The only common denominator in all this is you. Try someone that is totally different from what you usually go for. There are plenty of good Christian men out there, but you have to do a better job of weeding out the bad ones. Don't give up, the right one is out there for you.
2006-12-07 19:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you're not alone. THe world nowadys is filled up of jerks!!!I'm sorry to say but it's the truth, both men and women.
I've also had the same problem, getting a nice Chrstian, born again lady, but i believe at the right time during God's timing all will fall in place>
Relax for God is in control of your life!!
2006-12-07 17:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Leonardo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may well have a low opinion of yourself and seek jerks because that is what you recognize as normal, possibly because of the way you were raised. Was your Dad not very nice to your Mom? Or were you told that you weren't worthy of better treatment, because ultimately, it starts with you, and how you feel about yourself. I have seen this happen time and again with the woman I know, and when a nice guy comes along, they turn away, and fall into the arms of the guy that treats them badly and then lament the fact that this is happening. Remember, in most cases, no one does anything to you that you don't let them do.
2006-12-07 17:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Such is life my dear . we all have been thru that . U will meet some1 who will treat u with care . Juss be patient . WIsh u well. I dated a Jerk 6 months ago and now I am with with someone who luvs me better . Wish u well
2006-12-07 17:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should really take stock of where you are meeting the guys. If every guy you dated, you meet at a bar; then I would suggest stop meeting guys at bars.
If you want a Christian boyfriend, then I would recommend looking at the guys at church first.
The good guys are out there. It's just a matter of breaking the the dating cycle your in and looking for a new source.
2006-12-07 17:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by A5150Ylee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been a jerk magnet for about 6 years. And then God finally brought me someone. We've been together for almost 10 months now.
Don't worry. That guy will come.
God has a plan for you and will bring you the one in His time. All you have to do is have faith in Him.
2006-12-07 17:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
might be its higher when you begin of as a buddy, its particularly rough to inform whether or not a man will emerge as as a jerk, simply deal with them great, constantly smile regardless of the way you harm, while you broke up they are going to neglected you prefer they misplaced a leg.... good anyhow no longer all men are the equal, simply appear for the fellow who doesnt transfer rapid on a dating... the ones men customarily are great and can appreciate you..... well success watching for mr proper
2016-09-03 10:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by kernan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has absolutely Nnothing to do with a "god".
Guys that approach are typically more forward (jerks).
What you have to do is stop ACCEPTING ADVANCES and start noting what is most important to you.
Then you go GET the guy that meets that.
Dont wait for someone to drop in your lap from heaven land.
2006-12-07 17:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Peter X. Long 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋