I think I am a great girl-smart, funny, pretty - and although the guys I date say the same, they never want to commit in the end...they either say that they are no good for me or just can't give me the kind of relationship I want...which is basically just a normal relationship that progresses over time...
How can I present myself so that guys who want a commitment will pursue me instead of the non-commital ones?
2006-12-07 17:34:53 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The truth is... sometimes it is difficult to find a guy who is willing to commit to a relationship, no matter who you are....
However, there is truth in this statement: No matter what, there will always be a guy so desperate to feel love that he would do almost anything for that feeling... including commit to a relationship.. however, those men also tend to be "undesirable" when it comes to physical appearance.
I don't get a serious man... no men seem to be interested in me... but I'm sure you have a better chance than I do anyway...
Sorry I can't really help you, but I can at least be honest.
Aloha,
David
2006-12-07 17:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Zack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hang out with the party crowd, that doesn't exactly scream, "I want to commit." Same, if you are out with a different guy every week or two. Also, if you're dressed showing off your goods, doesn't help either (showing you want commitment).
Young guys are less likely to commit than someone a little older. That's because the younger one's are still "experimenting" and the older, more mature guys are ready for a commitment.
Be patient. You'll find someone, some day. Oh, you should also set a high standard. Or else grief will come, later. Best wishes.
2006-12-08 02:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by slobberknocker_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to guys about what kind of girl they want to make a commitment to. If you meet a guy's description of the girl he wants to make a commitment to, you and he should soon realize that taking the time to develop A LOT OF TRUST in each other is worth the time it takes. Some people take years to do that. The guy who meets this description may not be good looking, have lots of money or be extra smart, but there is much reward is knowing you and he have strong mutual commitments for each other. This can result in a strong..."M word". I hope the best in your search for Mr. Right.
2006-12-08 01:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by Piguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you present yourself as different to who you truly are, you will be acting a role, or living a lie if you prefer, and if by some chance you did get some serious guy to fall for you, you'll have to go playing that role your whole life, so the whole idea is self-defeating. Just be yourself (a great girl - smart, funny, pretty) and the right guy will come along. Guys get better at commitment the older they get, so don't worry too much. Blessings.
2006-12-08 01:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do exactly what you are doing. Make it obvious you are serious about finding someone. BUT...be happy that the guys you have dated have not committed. There is only ONE right person out there...you don't want some random guy telling you he wants to marry you. What kind of life would you have is you just settled for the first one that asked you to marry him? Be confident that Mr. RIGHT will come...at the right time!
Good luck!
2006-12-08 01:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going out of your comfort zone. Most likely your dating the same old guys that your comfortable with..even though they are retarded and don't want to commit. So try dating around (as in just going on dates with several different guys..like to the movies or dinner..just dates..not like have sex with them or anything) ..try dating around with guys you wouldn't normaly want to date...also you have to take yourself seriously to find someone who will be serious about you. So just try dating a different type of guy..and take it from there.
2006-12-08 01:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by luckychick123452006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not just tell every guy what you want from the beginning. what you need to do is find a good guy and simply let him love you. I'm sure you want to be married, but let the guy want to marry you on his own. it's not that guys are afraid to commit. it is just that we can't be pushed and pressured
2006-12-08 01:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to singles events or join a dating service. That way, you'll be surrounded by guys who are also looking for a relationship. That's how I got my guy!
2006-12-08 01:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by shirah_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to just be yourself! I dont mean to over analyze, but it sounds to me like you probably make it part of your dating ritual to be funny smart,,pretty, etc..Not to say you AREN'T those things, but usually a guy wants to be comfortable, and if he feels like he has to try too hard to please you, whether it be with witty conversation,complimenting you, or lookin' like he just stepped off the cover of GQ mag, he's gonna BOLT! It's just that simple.
Be casual, be easy going, and dont play show & tell about yourself! Just let it happen.
2006-12-08 01:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit dropping your London Bridge on the first date
2006-12-08 01:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by gentltailya 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋