basically im talking to a guy who i've only met one time and he lives in new york(im planning to go out there for school next yr and to make it happen with him).we are not gf/bf but we do talk almost everyday and he shows me love like sends me kisses over the phone we talk all nite tells me how he wants to see me how he missed me during the day blah blah but then sometimes outta the blue tells me "do u" like saying do what u want i dont want you to hold back if your interested in some1 else..and i get mad because he knows dam well how i feel about him..but point is this past weekends he went up to some cabbins with his friends and their gf's and this so called "homegurl" of his which he tells me he fooled around with years ago..so he tells me this girl kept telling him she wants to have sex with him and he says he rejected her....what really gets me thou he says she slept in his bed all weekend....n he also says they "spooned" but thats it.Should i just not believe it and cut it off?
2006-12-07 17:34:43 · 13 answers · asked by eL: 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This sounds a little fishy to me. I don't know of very many guys who sleep in a bed with a girl all weekend and don't do anything their potential girlfriends would probably get upset about. The fact that they spooned says alot in itself because spooning, cuddling, is more than just friends and not very innocent at all.
I realize you are not his girlfriend yet but the fact is you've told him how you feel about him and you've also made it clear you have no thoughts of doing anything on the side. The fact that he's telling you if there's anyone else you shouldn't hold back could either mean that he realizes you're not in a relationship with him and he's being reasonable or he's interested and/or already having a relationship on the side himself.
I mean it sounds like maybe he was trying to be honest with you about the weekend he spent spooning some other girl, then again you know him best and you should go with your gut on this one! If you are feeling like something else probably happened and he's not telling you the whole story then that might be your answer right there. I'd probably bring it up casually and say something like, "Yeah sure all you did was spoon" "Mmm hmm sure nothing happened" in a teasing voice and see what his reaction is. He's either going to get really quiet because he has no good lie ready, he'll act very nervous and start getting very defensive, or he will sound very honest and try very hard to reassure you that nothing happened.
I'd say give it chance before you cut it off. He may not have told you the whole truth but honestly most guys wouldn't have even bothered telling you that much. He may also just be testing you to see if you'll get jealous. You might get to NY and being there might just convince him how head over heels he really is with you and then you won't need to worry about homegurl because you'll be able to keep your eye on him in person ;) Keep an openmind regardless. You may find a better guy locally but you may have also found a good long distance guy who is willing to go out on a limb to tell you something not so savory about himself. I wouldn't expect him to wait a year for me necessarily nor would I expect you to wait either but that doesn't mean you can't stay in touch now and try to get together once you finally move there. Good luck!
2006-12-07 17:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 05:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to your question....you just don't like it. Some of us silly females expect crazy sh#t from men....Like for them to really mean what they say!! This guy easily put you on his back burner, on very low heat....Your waisting your time!! I've been there. There is so many guys near by, (they may play the same game) at least near by you can get some action and see what he's working with! CAUSE TALK IS CHEAP!!!!
2006-12-07 17:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by DREAMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut it off. The guy seems too controlling. Just tell him you found someone else, and that you feel like you have to move on. If he really feels like he's holding you down, he should understand.
2006-12-07 17:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by liv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there ,ok......you have meet this guy once and you are planning to move there for school next yr.....and make it happen with him .....look sweetheart he is playing you a lot of mind games ....this other girl and sleeping in hois bed this is typical mind games to get a reaction from you and to get under youre skin and believe me its working a charm ........you might we;ll be good mates on the phone and be able to chat for hours but in all honesty thats as far as i would take it ......look after youre self xx
2006-12-07 17:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that you don't really know this guy that well so why are you stressing about some girl he knew before.blow him off why get stuck with someone you don't know he could be a wierdo for all you know,go to school and make friends before you get hung up on some guy who proably ain't worth your time.
2006-12-07 17:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by carolstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he might be saying that because one he dont want to be with you and he is feeding you bull crap or two because you are not there and he is trying to make you jealous i dont know but if i were you if you really like him give him a chance if you dont know what you want to do just cut him off
2006-12-07 17:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by chyannemonroe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met him one time. ONE TIME!! Get over it, you don't even know what he is doing so far away. Sound like you need to find someone more local and try dating someone and not controlling someone you don't even really know.
2006-12-07 17:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't even really know him..don't jaz believe on what a man says to you..knowing you only met once. It is not easy to give your trust to man whom you dont even know. again,you only met once!man loves to say words, call it fruit of tongue!These are to get your attention,and i think hes jaz making you jealous,playing with you...playing with your emotion..finally cutt it off
But ofcourse decision is still in you.
2006-12-07 19:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by aleish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut it off with him and move on with your life. Life is too short and you are too young to be dealing with this kind of mess.
2006-12-07 17:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by searious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋