See Me And This Boy Are Goin Out ...... But The whole Time I've Been Attracted To His Friend And I Think Me And Him Should See Other People ..... What Should I Do And How Should I Tell My Bf.??
Love Grace
2006-12-07 17:29:36 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should not go out with any of them. It's a dangerous situation.
2006-12-07 22:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Grace, it sounds like you are young and don't really know what you want, but using a term like " HO " to describe yourself is just plain wrong, and you will forever have a low opinion of yourself if you don't learn to use more positive terms to see yourself in. Just because you like someone else doesn't mean you are a bad person, it just means you don't know who you want to be with, the important thing for you is to not act on your desires until you make a clean break from the guy you are with, and don't sneak around behind your present fella's back, because, if he finds out, there could be some trouble (or a lot of trouble). It is OK to like more than one person, but don't sleep around, because nobody wins in that situation, no matter how good it feels. If you decide to break it off with the guy you are with know to be with someone else, just tell him up front and be honest right from the start, and although he will be hurt by it, he will appreciate your honesty in the end. Good Luck dear, and once again, you are not a "Ho".
2006-12-08 01:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not hoe-ish to have feelings for someone else when you have a boyfriend....you cant help what you feel. you may have made poor judgement, since i get the idea that you have stronger feelings for his freind than him. I would just tell your bf that you want to see other people, that its not working out for you, etc etc. do it nicely and tactfully. DONT say youre breaking up with him because you watn his friend. and i would definitely not jump into pursuing his friend right after breaking up with him. give yourself and your boyfriend some time, and then if it seems OK to start dating his freind (and his freind wants to date you too, of course), then do so....dont break up a friendship tho, if thats what it comes down to.
and btw, dont listen to all these b*stards that are calling you a ho. theyre just confused.
2006-12-08 01:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a "ho" but you should definitely be careful. This kind of behavior is not healthy for anyone and will end up destroying friendships. Do not date the friend. Break up and wait to start dating again. Make sure you find someone special.
2006-12-08 01:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that society makes you think in these terms.
A better question would be are you being a good person? Treat these people as you would like to be treated and don't cheat. If you want to break up with boy number one and try dating boy number two, then do it. You are still very young, you will have plenty of relationships before you finally find the right one.
2006-12-08 01:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by ZCT 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being strictly monogamous is a struggle for many people. And many men and women end up having affairs on the side while pretentding to be faithful to their long-term partner.
Perhaps sneaking behind your partner's back and deceiving him (or her) is wrong. But if you openly and honestly talk about it with your partner and make some kind of a mutually acceptable agreement, then perhaps there is nothing wrong with having a fling or two on the side in these circumstances.
2006-12-08 01:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear grace, no u aren't being a ho, because u are only human and u can not control who u become attracted to, yeah u may hurt your bf, but its better to be honest with him then string him along, he may get upset but he'll get over it. if not then oh well, look u have to find out whats best for u, if u were my girl id respect u just for being honest with me.
2006-12-08 01:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by ish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , you are not a ho. Exploring other options is a smart thing to do if you feel like it is something you need to do. Just say to your bf that you are not ready to commit yet. He should respect your need for space.
2006-12-08 01:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not a ho. Secondly, make sure that this guy is REALLY worth breaking someone's heart. It shouldn't go by simply attraction.
2006-12-08 01:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by shirah_life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a hoe, but word of advise...NEVER, EVER, EVER Sleep with or date your boyfriend or ex-boyfriend's bestfriend or friend. You are entitled to how you feel about him, but never act upon your feelings because they will consider you a hoe. Even if you are not one, you will always be one in their eyes if you do that. If you break up with your boyfriend, that's fine, but his friends are OFF LIMITS!!!! And as far as your boyfriend, just find a nice way to tell him that you aren't feeling the relationship anymore or right now.
2006-12-08 01:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Chandra S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not a ho...you should be honest and so should his friend understand that he may be upset and you both may not have him as a friend afterwards...but honest is best and dont cheat that makes the HO
2006-12-08 01:33:53 · answer #11 · answered by mennispennington 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋