I like a girl. Appearently she likes me too. When I try chatting her on Yahoo messanger, she immediately disappears. When I call her and ask her, she always tells different reasons for not able to chat but again asks me why I am not chatting with her on messanger. Sometimes She calls me her close friend. When I try to talk personal, she changes the topic. I am confused. Should I go ahead or not ?
2006-12-07 17:20:51 · 11 answers · asked by Jim C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel your frustration.... and you shouldn't have to be a mind reader. You have two ways you can handle this. You can tell her how you feel and see if she feels anything like you do.
But if she's not the type to talk or express her feelings, then you're going have to play the "chase me" game right along with her. As much as I am tired of being Mr. Nice, I never wanted to learn how to play games people play. But I also did not realize how powerful this approach is.
You did all the work. You IM her and she disapperars. She talks to you in person, but more like a friend. When you try to get bolder, she vanishes and leaves you doubting, wondering and searching for answers.
But guess what? After you tell her how you feel about her, you have empowered her. You have given her the green light to approach you in return. You chased her, you taged her and now she knows where she stands with you. Now it's your turn to run and hide. If she has any interest in you, it's her turn to chase you.
Stop IMing her. Stop talking about the two of you being a couple. Be her friend, but don't always make yourself available for her. If she feels anything for you, I promise you, she will come around.
I just learned this and I hate how I had to play these games to get the response I've always wanted. I just learned that I have always made it too easy for women, by spilling my gutts out to them and being available for them, without them having to give anything back in return. Now, they won't leave me alone.
Please try it, and let me know what happens.
Good luck
2006-12-07 17:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead with asking her out, to me she seems like shes a bit scared and shy at the same time, she doesnt want it to look to obvious that she likes you incase you dont feel the same. Shes just holding her feelings back. But thats my opinon. If you want to play it safe find out more from her friends and see what really is going on, or you can wait for a few more days and just ask her if shes interested in anyone right now at our school and see what she says. But honestly I think you should just go for it, if she says no than at least you know and you can move on instead of wasting your time with her, but i really do believe she will say yes, shes just playing hard to get as well as not trying to be so obvious about her feelings towards you.
2006-12-07 17:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for whatever your heart desires, because if you don't do it, then you will regret it. The worst case scenario is you do it and she doesn't accept your offer. It's no big deal, at least you are able to know what would happen rather than thinking what would have happened.
2006-12-07 17:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by I answer ur questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u say 'apparently she likes me too'?
If she wont talk to u she doesnt like u. But she calls u her friend? Well maybe shes shy. But anyway its not worth it if she wont talk to u about anything. Because how can u have a relationship with some1 who wont talk!?
2006-12-07 17:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, she seems to be giving mixed signals but it could be a number of reasons why she's doing this.
Good Luck!
2006-12-07 17:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by lilAudrey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she's just shy. Keep trying for a little while longer until she gets over her shyness.
2006-12-07 17:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by kyls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave, hold your breath, go ahead and talk to her.
If you get rid of all the 'ooom....ooom...not now.... and ooom!'.... There is no big deal man, talk to her about it... It is just gonna take some minutes
2006-12-07 17:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is making it really difficult for you. i would suggest telling her how you feel & that you want to get to know her better, but she is making it really hard for you. see where that gets you. if nothing budges, then give up. it isn't worth all the games.
2006-12-07 17:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you tell her you like her? and did she say it back..
because if she told you that she did.. it kinda sounds like shes just leading you on because... she doesnt wanna tell you she doesnt because shes afraid of hurting your feelings..
it sounds like shes avoiding the situation and... ya thats just my view of it..
I hope i helped
2006-12-07 17:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
waste of time when a chick is interested she'll express interest just be her friend
2006-12-07 17:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋