Does he really care about me?

Question

Well, I have been with this guy for 4 years now. I never really asked myself this before, but now he is not showing that he cares. Fist of all we rarely talk on the phone, he never calls me I call him. But we do see each other every weekend. I recently made a trip I called him to tell him I was leaving and he was asleep I told his brother and he didn't even bother to call me back until next day @ 9:30pm After I talked to him he said he would call me the next day and he never did. It broke my heat, I think this is the worst things his ever done. I don't even want to talk to him. I wonder if he just simply does not care or love me anymore. I want to tell him how I feel, but I really don't want to cause conflict. Do you think he cares about me? I'm I reading to much into this? I'm so confused.
I feel like I need more than words from him. I need him to show me that he cares.

Answer 1

I think you should simply tell him how you feel. I mean, 4 years! Sounds like a lifetime! Ask him whether he cares about you. If he says he does tell him to show you. That's it. Communication's the key.

Answer 2

If the worse thing he's ever done in those 4 years is not calling you when he said he would, you've got it good ...


If it really bothers you, bring it up. Ask him what he did on the day he didn't call you. If he says he was busy and was doing a lot of things or what-not, then you know the reason why he didn't call you. That way you won't sound accusing and you find out the reason indirectly.

If you don't want to cause conflict, just wait till he does it again. That way you can say he's done it more than once and it really hurts you.

Answer 3

I have been dating Reid for 2 years, and I went through the same exact thing you are going through! I talked to him about it, and how I felt like he didn't care for me anymore cause he never calls, never acts like he wants to be around me, nothing. He made me realize something! I call him a few times a day, and he said that I never gave him enough time to miss me. He explained to me that it is ok if we go a day without talking. I called and texted him everyday without even giving him the chance to call or text me first, which made him want space. Not saying that he wanted to split up, he just wanted some room to breathe. We live an hour apart, so we don't get to see each other a lot either. I finally (even though it was hard) quit calling him and waited on him to miss me and call me! I promise it works!!! As soon as they notice you're not calling, they will want you! And when they start calling, don't answer immediately! Wait till at least the second time he calls you to answer! I don't mean 2 calls back to back, I mean the second time he calls you that is at least a few hours after the first attempted call. I read a quote once "Be the flame, not the moth." I know it sounds crazy, but it's true! Don't cling to him, live your life and have fun and he will come to you!! Never let him know that you are worrying over him, cause he will know that he has you right where he wants you! Also I read once, "To be loved, you must first be loveable!" Give him his space, it will take some time but he will, I promise, he will start calling you and wanting to be with you more. I know it will be hard at first, but it gets easy AND FUN when HE is the one calling YOU!!! And yes, he cares about you! You just have to learn how to MAKE him WANT YOU!!! ........."Be the flame, not the moth" :)

Answer 4

well, often when you feel someone doesn't care, they don't care. however, sometimes guys/people have trouble showing feelings, so that makes it difficult.

stop calling him & see what happens. he might just take you for granted after 4 years. some guys do that until they are shaken.

Answer 5

I need more background on ur relationship....but it sounds like he's probably cheating he's upset about something. the only way youll know is if u ask.