Should I marry my boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend asked me to marry him last feb., I said yes and was very excited. Now I just cant stop thinking about my ex, we broke up last April after he needed his space. He's called and said sorry and asked if we could try again. My friends are half and half on what I should do, but most say he is still in love with me. I do have to say he was great , untill the last few months. During that time he hurt me and broke my heart. I love my boyfriend, but why is my ex in my thoughts all the time. Help!!!

Answer 1

HANG ON

Your b/f asked you to marry him in FEB, and you broke up with your ex in APRIL

Something doesn't add up here.

Answer 2

Well, I don't think that getting back with your ex is a good idea. You may still love each other but if he hurt you once he could very easily do it again but this time get you trapped into a marriage. As far as your current fiance goes you definitely shouldn't marry him. He doesn't have your whole heart and it will just cause problems in the marriage and resentment for each other. Maybe you should try being on your own for a while and clear your head. Get to know both of these guys better. Make sure which one is right for you (if either) before jumping into a marriage you will regret.

Answer 3

The simple answer to your question is no. If you are this torn between feelings for an ex, and decisions to marry, then you should not waste your time getting married. Marriage is for people who both want to be together. If you can't decide, then that is problem. What's worse is you are stringing your boyfriend along while dreaming about your ex. This is particularly cruel. He thinks you are soon to be wed, and you are debating whether to even get married. In his mind, the marriage is already a done deal, yet in your mind it is still up for debate.

He asked you to marry him, you said yes enthusiastically. Now you are stringing him along.

Then there is the whole time line question too. You claim to have agreed to marry last February, yet claim to have broken up with your ex in April. So you agreed to marry while cheating, or did you just confuse the dates in your question?

Either way, you sound mixed up and confused. I really hope your boyfriend knows what he is getting involved with. Because to be honest, you sound like a very high maintenance unreliable person who does not keep her word.

Answer 4

If you are concentratin so much on your ex, you do not need to marry your current b/f now. You need to figure out where things stand with your ex first and Im not saying go back to him. What if your ex only came back and said sorry because he found out that you was getting married and decided to try and stop it, and what if you call off the engagment to get back with your ex and he end up doing the same thing over again. Remember he broke your heart and left you and you moved on and are supposity getting married. Dont mess up a good thing because of one person who just came back into the picture. You should be focused on your fiancee not your ex. Yall broke up for a reason and I know you do not want to go throught that agan. Dont pay him any mind, stay happy with who u are with. Good luck

Answer 5

Your ex may have heard that you're getting married and that's why he's contacting you. He had his chance, and screwed it up. If you love your boyfriend and he loves you and he is good to you, then there is really no reason not to marry him. Like the old saying, "the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence". Whenever your ex comes into your thoughts, then also remember the heartbreak you've felt. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

If you have to question it, then no. Especially if you have to ask a yahoo goup of people you don't even know. Let me just say this. In this past year, I got married and I just had a baby. The thought of getting married is such a romantic fantacy idea but in reality there is alot of responsibility that goes into marriage (financial, emotional, physical etc.) With respect, you need to look at reality when you make your decisions.

Answer 7

your boyfriend deserves all of you, not just a part. poor guy, it's time to get yourself together. if you can't dedicate yourself to him 100%, let him go. you can't be selfish with this. if you're even thinking about it, it's time to take a break. from all relationships. you might not be ready to get married. if the other guy hurt you and broke your heart, don't go back to him. you need to figure yourself out, and then maybe you can give yourself to the guy that deserves it, your fiance who has no idea that you're thinking of a guy that pales in comparison to him. don't marry him until you know without a doubt that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, and only him. that you love him so much that you want to make him happy, and would do anything to do that. this is serious.

Answer 8

Your boyfriend asked you to marry him and your ex wants to mend things again. Could it be a bit of jealousy from your ex's side? Maybe your ex got to know about your current boyfriend's proposal and got a bit jealous. Or it could be the other way round. Your current boyfriend got to know about your ex's forgiveness and jealousy took over and proposed to you. It could also be my imagination.

All I know is that you can't make facts in just one day by asking for forgiveness. If your ex wants you back, he has to SHOW you that he wants you back. Not just by sweet apologetic words but he has to really get some action in him. You cannot just throw your current boyfriend away in order to mend things with your ex.

There are two important questions you need to reflect on.

1 -- Who's the love of my life?
2 -- With whom am I willing to spend happily the rest of my life with?

Do what's right. Don't think with your brain but think also with your heart.

Answer 9

Commitment pressure and being unsure. It's clear that the ex should be out of your life. Now you have a new man, one you agreed to marry, so if you really do want to- eliminate your insecurities and doubts and wonders. Make a decision (if you think it's the right one) and just do it. Give it 100%. I once heard from someone that women are their own worst enemy. They let their insecurities get to them and defeat them.

Answer 10

Chances are if your EX hurt you once, he'll do it again! It's hard to get past that, but you can do it. I would NOT return to a potential heartbreak again. However, I would not be too quick to marry the present boyfriend until you can put the past (EX) BEHIND you. That wouldn't be fair to the present boyfriend.

Answer 11

You may just be having prewedding jitters. If you are in love with your ex or your fiance you are the only person who can answer the question. Follow your heart and Good luck!