HOw do i start fixing my broken heart?

Question

he just crushed my love sick heart.. how do i put it back together...?

make me feel better...

Answer 1

People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way--at least initially. These suggestions may help you navigate the painfully troubled waters of a relationship that has ended.

Day 1

Instructions
•STEP 1: Breathe. All you can do is survive this first and difficult day. Take one day at a time.
•STEP 2: Give yourself permission to mourn. Call in sick at work, sleep all day, eat too much ice cream, sob.
•STEP 3: Congratulate yourself for being human: It is only when you open yourself to love that your heart can break.
•STEP 4: Develop and repeat a helpful mantra to get you through the initial shock and pain, such as "This too shall pass" or "I will survive."

Day 2

Instructions
•STEP 1: Reach out to a close friend or family member. It helps to share your thoughts with others.
•STEP 2: Watch a movie to distract yourself. Choose a comedy that has cheered you up in the past. Or watch a movie that's guaranteed to make you sob--it may surprise you how good that feels.

Week 1

Instructions
•STEP 1: Force yourself to go out even if you are feeling despondent. Take yourself out for a cup of coffee or go on a long walk.
•STEP 2: Express your emotions in a way that comes naturally. Write in a journal, paint, sculpt or play music.
•STEP 3: Do daily cardiovascular exercise--the endorphins will give your spirits an immediate lift.
•STEP 4: Resist the urge to call your ex. Instead, write a letter. Don't mail it.
•STEP 5: Go out of town for the weekend to distance yourself from the temptation to call your ex. Visit an old friend or go back home to your roots. A change of environment does wonders for the spirit.
•STEP 6: Put everything that reminds you of your ex in a box and seal it. Throw it away, donate it to charity or ask a friend to hold on to it indefinitely.

Week 2

Instructions
•STEP 1: Surround yourself with friends. This may mean reaching out to people you fell out of touch with during the relationship.
•STEP 2: Make lists to help you regain your confidence and identity: a list of your friends, of things you like, of what you want to accomplish in the next decade.
•STEP 3: Spoil yourself: Get a new hairstyle, have a spa day or go shopping.
•STEP 4: Resist the urge to call your ex.

Week 3

Instructions
•STEP 1: Assess the experience. Have you learned anything about yourself? Does the experience make you more empathetic to others who've suffered a hardship?
•STEP 2: Begin an activity that will fill your time, distract your mind and rebuild your confidence. Train for a marathon, take up yoga or learn a new language.
•STEP 3: Resist the urge to call your ex.
•STEP 4: Volunteer your time at a local homeless shelter, soup kitchen or tutoring center. It will take your mind off your own woes and keep your suffering in perspective.

Week 4

Instructions
•STEP 1: Continue regular socializing and exercising. While socializing, though, make sure you don't depend on alcohol or drugs to dull the pain.
•STEP 2: Call your ex if you feel it would be helpful. Resist if you merely want to say hurtful things.
•STEP 3: Consider dating other people, but be wary of rebound relationships.
•STEP 4: Understand that you will need to experience and process sadness, anger, guilt and fear to fully heal. Burying or ignoring these emotions will thwart the healing process. Write, cry, share the feelings with friends.

Months 3 to 6

Instructions
•STEP 1: Force yourself to go on dates. You'll be surprised to discover that your heart can still flutter over someone. It's part of the healing process.
•STEP 2: Consult a psychiatrist if you are experiencing symptoms of depression, such as lack of appetite, insomnia or too much sleeping, low self-esteem, and an inability to concentrate or carry out routine tasks. Ask a friend or physician to recommend one who is experienced in treating depression.
•STEP 3: Remember that healing is a process that takes time. Expect waves of sadness, anger, guilt or fear even after you think you are over it. Give your heart time to heal.

One year and beyond

Instructions
•STEP 1: Compartmentalize the experience in your memory: "My heart was broken once. It really hurt and I'm glad it's over."
•STEP 2: Reach out to your ex if you want to re-establish a friendship. Do not harbor secret ambitions of winning him or her back. You'll only set yourself up for another heartbreak

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I am very sorry for your pain. This is something that happens to most everyone in their lifetime at least once. You are entitled to feel disappointment and hurt. The human spirit, though, will bring you around. Just knowing that time heals. To help it along, go through the motions of living and staying active day to day. Something else, an interest, music, something will begin to spark your interest. There will be a day when you look back and smile that you came through it, just like the rest of us. Remember, sometimes when someone you love causes a break up, it is still better knowing that they were truly not for you before you give many years of your life to someone unworthy of it.
Tomorrow is a new day, treat it as such! Best of Luck!

Answer 4

The first thing you can do is to recognize that YOU have control over your heart and zero control over other people.

Attitude is important. If you choose to wallow in self-pity, you will. If you choose to be grateful for all you experience and seek wonder and bliss in your life, you will find them.

Yes, we often feel sad when things change, and that's okay for a limited time. However when it becomes overwhelming and interferes with our functioning and our happiness, then we really need to do something different.

Pain is a sign that we need to change....not to change other people, but to change our attitude, perspective, and the part we allow others to play in our life. We cannot change other people, but we can change how we respond to them.

Being kind, loving and caring to yourself begins the healing process. If you expect someone else to come along and fix you, that isn't going to happen. Someone else might be a distraction to keep your mind off how you feel, but avoiding feelings does not aid healing.

This too shall pass.

Answer 5

All good answers but I look at it like this you have chosen particular paths in your life to travel and along the way. You will have many relationships.
Now here is the difficult thing each relationship has a lesson attached and being able to open your mind and your heart to this is difficult because we all feel we are right and we don't come with any dings.
You need to mentally thank him for the direction and the lessons and you will move forward with open arms.

Answer 6

Since there's a child involved, this is complicated.To stay inyour child's life,you got to have contact with the mother. Even though it will be difficult, you need time to yourself to sort things out and move on. Anytime a relationship ends, it hurts like hell. You're lost,lonely, and at loose ends. You really don't know how to do things alone, as you've always been with another person. You really have to rearrange your whole life. It doesn't happen in a day. It takes awhile. Hang out with friends. Do things you like to do. Eventually, a new lady friend will come along.

Answer 7

Allow yourself a limited time to just feel sorry for yourself. (Say, 24 hours?) Don't you hate it when life sucks and people say, "oh, its not so bad!, You'll be fine. OR Things will get better." All of those things may be true, but the fact is, right now life sucks - so just allow it to, for a while. Skip work and stay in bed all day, eat junk food, drink a bottle of merlot (WARNING: Only if you are not an alcoholic!!)...do whatever you do to wallow in sorrow... Then tomorrow, get up and say, "Today is the first day of the rest of my life." and continue on.....

Answer 8

Let it alone and it will heal. Keep busy Keep your mind occupied with other things to help keep out thoughts of him. If you need to cry give yourself a set time,anywhere from a few minutes to setting aside a weekend to think of the way things were, play sad songs and eat too much ice cream as you cry for what was and what might have been. When that time is up, wash your face, take some deep cleansing breaths, and go on with your life. You only get one Grand Grief and Ice Cream session so wail and weep it out of you, take every moment of that time to wallow in your pain and to feel as sorry for yourself as you can possibley feel, and then go on with your life.

Answer 9

You need to let it out. Don't bottle it all inside. Once you let it out, you will begin the healing process. I would mourn for 3 days, and then start to slowly think happy thoughts. Do some nice things for yourself that you wouldn't normally do. Change your hairstyle. Get a Massage. You are priceless. One of a kind. You're Beautiful.

Answer 10

this is really superficial, but you have to give yourself a mini-makeover. some bubble bath, nail painting & some hot oil treatments. then, go shopping & buy a new outfit. that will help. it won't cure by any means, but it will help you feel better on a different level (which will ultimately help you recover).

going out with your girl friends and having a great time will really help you out! girl friends are the best!

then, go out on some dates with other guys. nothing serious, but just have some fun!

also, focus on improving your life & yourself. pick up a new hobby or volunteer somewhere.

Answer 11

broken hearts are almost impossible to get a quick fix for. in time the pain will go away. try to do things that you enjoy, surround yourself in activities that keep your mind on what you are doing, instead of your broken heart.