ok. how to explain this on a web page:
this guy that i was totally in love with and was the best girlfriend to betrayed me and i found out by one of his friends. after i broke up with him and confronted him about the infidelity...after that he proposed to me. i declined the ring and told him that i would contiue to be his girlfriend. within the next month i was breaking up with him and then getting back with him and was treating him like a yo-yo. and during a break he met a girl. however i finally told him that i was ready to be with him and i was going to forgive and forget. HOWEVER, i found out he continued an illicit relationship with her after he asked me to move in with him and once again asked me to be his wife... we went for weeks without talking and he called me yesterday and asked to be my friend., however he asked me out on a date again and wants to obviously be with me once again. oncef a chaeater, always a cheater? please sombody have an answer to my problem!
2006-12-07 17:05:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him alone. It appears that your relationship was built on lies and deceit. The two of you need to stop acting like children. You know that he disrespected you in the past. You need to give him his walking papers. If he could not respect you enough to be loyal and faithful then you could find someone else who would appreciate you more. You should not go back and forth with him. Just move on. with time and patience, You will find someone who is worth your time.
2006-12-07 17:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like neither one of you know how to commit. It's hard to forgive someone for being unfaithful, and almost impossible to forget. Maybe you should try meeting in a neutral area, and talk about past transgressions, the whys, how it felt, and where to go from here (if at all?). I don't believe personally "once a cheater always a cheater", unless the person is a total player. I cheated on my ex's, yes I said X'S, but it was with the guy I TRULY was in love with but he was too damned stubborn to say "I love you too", so I showed HIM! I married his best friend! GOD don't be that ignorant dear! I've always loved him, he just wasn't ready. It's easy to have hind sight, but i'm giving YOU the opportunity to bypass the heartache & turmoil. If you love him, wait 4 him. If you don't, let him go. It's just that simple.God love ya, I know how u feel.
2006-12-08 01:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry that you're going through all this. If he really loved you, then he wouldn't have cheated on you.....more than once. He offers you the ring in hopes you'll forget. So if he's playing around on you now, what will happen 10 years from now? I would advise you to find someone else who will be faithful to you. There are too many diseases out there that you don't need to get.........best of luck to you.
2006-12-08 01:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may one day settle down with one partner, but I doubt it will be you. You need to cut this guy off and move on with life. He is just using you because he knows you'll take him back. It really sounds like every time someone else cuts him off, he comes straight to you. That is NOT because he is in love with you. He very obviously is not in love with anyone but himself. And that is because you let him do it. You need to value yourself more than your infatuation with this jerk, and take back control of your life. Dump him and keep him dumped, no matter how big of a sob story he lays on you or how big his puppy-dog eyes are, or how big of crocadile tears he sheds. He is a monster devouring your life, and there are good guys out there who will value you and treat you right. Don't let fear of being alone trip you up, you can get past him and move on.
2006-12-08 01:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by rumplesnitz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater isnt always a cheater, but this guy sounds like bad news for you either way. just find yourself someone who you dont have to worry about cheating and let this guy play his games with someone else.
2006-12-08 01:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by relee03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a cheater from a long time. We can not cheat for a long time but I could not keep from cheating again after many years of not cheating.
2006-12-08 01:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Diddly 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
OKay number 1..why give the guy another chance I wouldnt. he was dishonest to you, cheated on you, you deserve more then that, If I was in ur situation and he messed it up again that would be that.. I prolly wouldnt talk to him ever again either
2006-12-08 01:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by beth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats true...that saying once a cheater always a cheater...but he seems to be really in love with u if u wants u to be his wife. i mean, no guy is ever ready to committ just so they can cheat on a wife right? but seriously, im sure once u two are married and he knows that he has wat he wants at home, im sure he wont be looking else where.
2006-12-08 01:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by a divine dream 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Once a cheater is NOT always a cheater.
People can change... people can mature.
2006-12-08 01:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater, always a cheater..he only stops cheating because he's tired of it. But hardly...
2006-12-08 01:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by blzwbr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋