My mom treats me like I am mentally ill?

Question

I got thyroid problems when I was 18 years old, this illness is very debilitating and physically painful, I was just starting my live and was really scared and sad.
I needed a lot of love and support from my family, unfortunatelly my mom was told I was clinically depressed, I know I am not mentally ill, I had the nomal discouragement that comes from suffering and ongoing illness for years and years.
Ive tried to talk to mom but doesnt understand, she thinks the doctor opinions have more weight than mine.
Her treatment is offensive.
What do I do? I want to cut of the relationship with her cause it hurst but it hurts not to have a realtionship with her at the same time cause I want a mom.

Answer 1

Being depressed, doesnt make you mentally ill. And if that's what the doc told her, why do you blame HER for believing the doc's diagnosis. That's why we turn to the medics. They're supposed to have the knowledge to know these things.
There's no need to cut off relations with your mom. You should be able to comfort and enjoy each other.

Answer 2

Which thyroid condition do you have? Hyperthyroidism or hypothyroidism? I have hyperthyroidism and can tell you firsthand that this disorder causes depression symptoms not to mention the scare and heartache of knowing that you have it. But with proper meds and the condition being controlled properly, these symptoms should diminish. In extreme cases you might need an addtional anti-depressant but don't think this is something that you alone can control and your doctor should know better!!! Research the disorder and show the reasearch to your Mom. Chances are she doesn't understand it either and that's why she's acting like this. Education could be the key here. Good luck! Oh and by the way, unless you gave the doctor permission to tell your Mom the diagnosis, he broke a major law telling her!

Answer 3

I'm so sorry your Mom is treating you like this . I too have a thyroid condition . I'm on medication . This is the time your mother should be there for you . I think she should be more educated on the problems your having . There is medication for depression also . Nothing to hide or be a shamed about . Please don't be scared or sad . Life has a lot to give you . I think your Mom should get some consoling . May be you should get some too. Your not mentally ill . Not like you think your mother thinks you are . Don't give up on Mom . Still try to talk to her and tell her how you feel . That if she doesn't stop treating you like this you will not see her or talk to her as much . Tell her you love her but stop treating me like I'm a mentally ill . If you have a life of your own . Live it . Love it . And enjoy it . Life is to short to let any body degrade you . I mean any body . That means Mom too .

Answer 4

She must be really uninformed to think depression is the same as mental illness.

A slight study on the internet will show her that thyroid problems CAUSE depression. Resolving the thyroid problems will lift a lot of the depression. But, like you said, some of your depression is coming from having the thyroid issues so long. Plus, now, you are getting depressed because your Mom doesn't understand your medical condition is being lazy and putting a label on you, rather than reading up on your condition.

Generally, no one should take their doctor's advice at face value these days. They often don't stay up to date on issues, and the thyroid is one the areas doctors only get about 3 hours of medical education in. I learned a lot about thyroid issues by studying on the internet because my doctor was WORTHLESS.

I now see a great M.D./Naturopath. She has me on a great multi, B vitamins, cal/mag, fish oil and something called Metaglycem-X by Metagenics (I think this is only available through a naturopath). Aerobic exercise will help with the depression.

You may want to try Thyodine and L-Tyrosine together. Thyodine is available on the internet OTC from www.greenwillowtree.com for about $24.

You are young now and may feel you need their support, and of course that would be NICE, but realize that this medical issue will be with you and need monitoring by you your whole life. So you will be handling these issues for yourself long after you have left home, so you may as well get "in practice" now.

Answer 5

Honey, I hate to tell you this, but it sounds to me like your mom's just being your mom! Unless there's more to the story. Having depression does NOT mean you are mentally ill! and sometimes we are the last ones to reaize it if we ARE the ones suffering from depression. I've always been an optimist, but when my dad died 2 yrs. ago, I as usual, assumed the role of strong one, I can get thru this, its just a phase, yadda yadda, I too have a thyroid condition, and it sucks! But worse than that, I WAS severely depressed & didnt even know it! I am in the nursing field & felt like a real moron when my best friend had to hit me with a brick to get me to realize that I indeed WAS suffering from depression. Many things can bring on depression, even health problems. Honey, do yourself a favor, go to the Dr, tell him(her) your opinion, let the doc give you some samples of an anti-depressant to get started, have a trusted friend monitor your behavior, and don't say anything to mom! If people start commenting on your "change of mood", you'll know, and it's NOTHING to be ashamed of! If you had a broken arm wouldn't you get it fixed? It's no different love, trust me, you'll be glad you did. God Bless & good luck .

Answer 6

if it is debilitating and painful you have other problems. I have had thyroid problems for years and have not had to even take as much as one asprin for the problem. Maybe you need to find a better doctor or start listening to your mother. I take one prescription for the problem and my doctor does a blood workup on me every 3 months to keep it in check.

Answer 7

I think u should really try and sit her down and tell her how you feel and maybe you could bring her with you to one of your doctors appointments and have tyour doctor explain to her the differences between having a thyroid problem and depression and explain how they almost always get mixed up. Good luck.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I believe you may have to talk to your doctor privately and personally.
if she believe him then thats one form of hope.

Answer 10

get therapy from a counselor, they will help your mom to accept it. & not disrespect you