Should partners shar the housework 50/50?

Question

My partner and i both work in manager positions so are pretty flat out yet i do 90% of the cooking/cleaning. How should i approach this issue? thanks

Answer 1

very carefully_

Answer 2

Does your partner mow the lawn or wash the cars or something else that isn't purely to benefit himself? Does he work more hours than you, even if it's only an hour a day? That would mean you should do an hour a day more housework. My husband cleans the floors (because that's the job I hate the most) as well as all the outside stuff, and also helps with the dishes. We both think that's fair. If you think you're doing too much then you should ask him for some extra help. He might not realise he's not doing his share, but it's something you need to nip in the butt now before you end up married and it's too late to change things then!

Answer 3

If you both work yes it should be shared and you should be straight out with it, but remember when it comes time to do the lawn work, winter or summer that should be shared too. My husband and I just split the difference. I don't work outside the home any longer so I do the cooking, cleaning, laundry and run the errands he takes care of the outside, lawn, garage and storage buildings.

Answer 4

tell your partner you are just too tired to be any good for them or yourself after working and doing most of the housework. ask them to either equally share the work or pay for someone to do the cleaning a couple of times a week. it worked for me and he wasn't even upset.

Answer 5

i visit respond to this one for My spouse. I do more beneficial than 0.5 of the cooking yet I savor that except i'm quite drained, I also help with washing the dishes,and the laundry. yet She does ninety 9 p.c. of the abode cleansing. and he or she by no skill forces Me to do some thing.

Answer 6

Stop doing what you are doing. When your partner sees that everything is a mess, say I am tired of doing all the work. I would appreciate you doing your part.

Answer 7

juz slowly approach ur partner and tell them how u feel..it's nt fair that u have 2 do 90% of the work..

Answer 8

have you just flat out asked him to help you out a little more? i actually took a class on well, gender, but we talked about this a little and discussed how they'll likely do it if you ask them to. or you could just stop doing it for a couple days and see what he does. like, don't wash his clothes and see if he gets the hint. or don't wash his dishes or something maybe! :-)

Answer 9

It should be 50-50 all around in any relationship, but that doesn't mean it really happens...but good luck.