i've been dating with the sweetest guy ever... we were friends before for 6 months. i like him more than a friend, i thought i love him, but when he started to kiss me and hug me i felt wrong, i didnt feel happy, i felt like he was using me (even if i still liked his touch) and i started to questioning my feeling for him, suddenly i didnt feel inlove. I dont know whats wrong with me, or maybe i feel the burden that his love for me is loads bigger than mine for him.
2006-12-07 16:46:02 · 8 answers · asked by liana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes, transitioning from friendship to a relationship can be a strange one. Maybe the reason why you felt strange is because in your mind, you still consider him as a friend, and it felt like he crossed some kind of boundary. I would say to try out the relationship first for a little while, and see if these feelings go away. For alot of people whose relationships start off first as friendships, they do go away. But if they don't, then maybe you were meant to be friends with him and friends only.
2006-12-07 16:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by ccccc12345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may simply be that you had wanted to be with this guy for so long that now you finally are with him you feel its almost an anti-climax. Its like when a small child yearns for a particular toy; when they eventually get it, they play with it for a day or so and then thats it - it loses it appeal. You were friends for six months before you started dating. How long have you been actually dating for? Maybe just take things a bit slower and see how it goes - pace yourselves! I've been friends with a guy for eight years and I didn't think he even knew I existed but after a chance remark we have now had a nice, sexy thing happening for the last four months. It can work out so dont give up hope:-)
2006-12-08 00:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down breathe next time your with him just simply take control. you Make the moves explain to him you wanna move a little slower to see how things work out. that your not sure of your feelings and you dont wanna rush into something your gonna regret. the biggest mistake in all relationships is rushing them. hang out do stuff you both enjoy maybe go bowling or play putt putt and if by the end of the night you wanna kiss him go for it. and see how it feels then if its still not right i suggest you two as re better off friends. but if it feels good. and it makes you want more. then stay with him. you got yourself a keeper.
2006-12-08 00:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by joslynndenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try imagining him out of your life or him going out with someone else and see how you feel. If you're OK with these scenarios, then maybe it wasn't meant to be. Either way, it's no rush...just chill and enjoy - the start of the relationship is the exciting part - don't overthink it x
2006-12-08 02:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by basement_chix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We both know that the problem here lies with you. Just be real with him and if you think that he's not the one just tell him. No point of staying in a relationship that is obviously not true. Cut him some slack and just tell him that you don't feel the same.
2006-12-08 01:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by Macky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He what? i dont know what to say but to me, if he kiss and huge you and you're not happy maybe it's wrong! if you dont mind just tell him that he really love you or just making for fun kiss you.. tell him that you dont like that what he did to you..but if you like what he did to you i dont have any comment for that! the conclusion is tell him abut your feeling when he huge and kiss you or just get some advice from your mother ok...
2006-12-08 01:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rei hatsumi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your reading it in to much. Give it some time and talk to him about it maybe just maybe hes like a brother to you
2006-12-08 01:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by sophie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instinct , if it dont feel right , then it aint right , whatever will be will be , good luck !
2006-12-08 02:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋