I've been seeing my girlfriend for a little while now but things just arent going well. The major problem is she is very unstable and has had many people break her heart, and I do not wish to be just another guy. She also has no idea that anything is wrong even though I feel like nothing is right. I care for her but I know our relationship is not right I need help on how to let her down without making her feel like its because of her
2006-12-07 16:41:04 · 14 answers · asked by White Lightning 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BE HONEST! Don't say things you don't mean or promise things you can't deliver. In this case, sit her down and explain the truth. Don't be mean. Don't be harsh. Just tell her you feel you are on two different paths and that you respect her.
She'll probably be hurt no matter what you say. Just be a nice and as thoughtful as possible. That's your only chance of not being just another jerk who broke her heart. But keep in mind, what she thinks of you is out of your control. Good luck!
2006-12-07 16:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, there isn't going to be any "easy" way....you are just going to have to be honest and truthful with her. Sit her down and talk to her. Yes, she has had her heart broken many a time, we all have, but there is no point in staying when things aren't the same between you. *Here's an experience for you to grow on: I was married for 23 years, when our only child (a daughter) got married (in Dec 2001), my husband left 11 days later (on Christmas Day)....said he never loved me, that he only stayed all this time because he didn't want our daughter to come from a broken home...that devastated me! But, divorcing me was the best thing he could have done for me....I am doing so much better on my own than when we were married. And the whole experience toughened me up. So please, do both you & your girlfriend a favor....do what is best for both of you....Good luck!!
2006-12-07 16:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by AngelEyes In SF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a sweet and nice manner, tell her that she needs to be single for a while, to take the time to know herself... coz it won't get any better if she continues to put herself in relationships without taking a break to let go of previous hearbreaks. Assure her that she's strong enough to stand on her own for a while. Let her know that being single isn't so bad either, that she'll actually enjoy it.... going from one guy to another, just to have "someone" there isn't gonna move things forward. Tell her you care for her and that you're there for her but that you can't be her boyfriend if she's not willing to meet you half way on things.
I dunno what else to add... hope that helps?
2006-12-07 16:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by hawaiiangirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you can't see it going anywhere. If you knew she was unstable by all the previous boyfriends dumping her, they why did you go out with her? You didn't know about them, did you! Maybe she is really a manipulative girl and can see by the look in your eye your ready to run.
Get out of the relationship before you find a bunny in a pot on the stove!!!
2006-12-07 16:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by moobiemuffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should tell her that you just don't want to be in a relationship right now and maybe lie a little bit and say it's interfering with school or something but never say it's her fault
2006-12-07 16:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the blame, but be honest with her in that you want to end it. "I'm just not mature enough", "I just don't want to be in a relationship now". "I don't think we are right for each other". "I just want to be friends". Or if there is another girl in the picture, tell her. . ." you are nice, but I've met someone new" It would be worse for you to drag this out because that will just result in you one day blowing up and telling her you want ton end it in a very messy way.
2006-12-07 16:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by searious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you that you care about her, and that you don't want to be just another guy, but that you want the best for her and you know that you are not it. that she deserves a knight on a white horse, and you could never be that. the last thing in the world you want is to hurt her, and that's why you're letting her go.
2006-12-07 16:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by corinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is never easy. You are probably going to hurt her no matter how you word it. You just have to be honest and tell her the truth about how you feel.
2006-12-07 16:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by godeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is just talk to her and tell her you care about her but the relationship isnt right for you and you dont want to hurt her but you have to do what is right for you. if you havent been dating for long this is the best tactic i think.
2006-12-07 16:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well goodluck breaking her heart, nothing u can say that can stop that unless...u become clingy and make her break up witchu
2006-12-07 16:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by JO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋