The groom is the one who will be flushing his sex life and his social life (and usually his wallet) down the toilet by getting married; shouldn't that account for anything? Why do women think that everything has to be about them?
2006-12-07 16:37:32 · 33 answers · asked by AngryAmerican82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
LOL @ "Groomzilla"
No, all I'm saying is that it doesn't make logical sense in this day and age when women want "equal" treatment that they should still want to have the wedding revolve arond them. Especially if the bride is going to be completely financially dependant on the groom. And no, none of this has squat to do with me personally, just observations of modern society in general.
2006-12-07 20:59:25 · update #1
because it is for them....men dont care much about it they would go straight for the honeymoon most of us
2006-12-07 16:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by sahajrob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you make a great point about the weddings revolving around the bride. That's why we have terms such as Bride-zilla. Women turn into monsters for that one perfect day that is never perfect. I know many men who want nothing to do with the wedding, especailly as soon as the zilla part starts to show in the bride. If it's that important to you though you should make sure that you find someone who agrees before ever thinking about getting married. I love how people get married even though the whole planning of the wedding was nothing but a fight. Can we say divorce? Not to mention that many couples end up divorced and site financial reasons for the issues, yet at the begining what could have been a nice down payment (or in some cases the entire payment) to a house is spent on flowers to be thrown away and a dress never again to be worn.
Besides most women (I do not include myself in this) don't want to be equals. Otherwise by now we'd have the ERA passed. No, many just want to pick how we are equal and how we are not....
And I disagree about only the many losing a sex life and social life...both of them lose it.
2006-12-08 10:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by masterjennjenn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your problem is that this isn't about you so you have no idea.
As old fashioned as it may be - when you love someone, you want them to be happy. Most guys, when they propose, are deeply in love and want to do whatever it takes to make their future wife happy - including letting her have the wedding of her dreams. Wait till you fall in love like that - you'll understand!
(PS - did it ever occur to you that the women is also flushing her sex and social life as well and since you will be married, the money you waste is money you BOTH don't have after the wedding? Not to mention that if the couple then decides to have kids its HER career that gets put on hold?)
Now for a techinical answer, lol: Men are naturally task oriented while women are naturally more detail oriented. Most men are more concerned with getting it done then with the how, when, why, where, etc while women are more likely to be concerned with all those little details. So, naturally, it woudl be the woman who would be more interested aka more involved in the planning. Call me sexiest - but I'm a woman and have no problem admitting that there are same things that are just different about women and men.
2006-12-09 08:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings tend to revolve around the bride I think because many grooms do not seem to have strong feelings about flowers and food and colors of the linens. Many men are thankful to be left out of these decision. If you have strong feelings then you should make sure you voice them because they are equally important to the brides. However, if you are as upset as you seem in your question maybe you should think again before getting married. Marriage is a sacrifice on the part of both parties. So whether you see it or not, there are things she is giving up too. If you are not ready to compromise on your social life, finances, etc then maybe you are not ready for marriage.
2006-12-07 16:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by LLL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because generally speaking the rest of the marriage revolves around the groom!!! Also I don't know what kind of marriage you are going to be involved in, but I am married and I also can only have sex with my husband for the rest of my life (therefore using your terms, I have "flushed my sex life") if you have to "flush your social life" than you shouldn't be marrying that person, and if you don't like paying into shared items/expenses then be alone......(the bride contributes too now a day.......what era are you from???)
2006-12-07 16:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 23:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by rochart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could this be the first hint of GROOM-zilla?
Most guys are happy and relieved to not have to be involved in wedding planning as long as they have veto power over the tuxedos and stuff like that. And I think some women would be happy if their husband-to-be took more interest in the wedding.
At any rate, I hope you're just aksing on a general prinicple of p!$$ed-offness. You sure as heck don;t sound ready for marriage.
2006-12-07 20:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and I agree partially with your question. It does seem like weddings are all about the bride. I personally am anti huge wedding. I want to shoot brides who are psycho selfish freaks. Now to the other part... Marriage is not the end of sex, social lives, or having money. If you know people with wives like that, then they've married the WRONG women. I'm nothing like that! Marriage is a partnership to me, and that means equality between both of us.
2006-12-07 16:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all his sex life isnt being flushed down the toilet. SEX is WAY!!!!! better when your married then you can go all the way and not have to worry about pregnancy, dieseses or a Condom for that fact. OR the PARENTS. IF your married Have sex in your old bedroom at your moms house. See you cant get into trouble if your married
2006-12-15 07:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by big pappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last time I looked the groom was part of the ceremony, was part of the cake cutting, was in a large number of pictures, threw the garter, said vows, etc. Hmmm, yet you still think its all about the bride. Let her make the plans, pick the kind of flowers, the color of the flowers, the brides maids dresses, etc. etc., Most men dont enjoy those things anyway. Let her have fun and plan the day she has looked forward to all her life.
2006-12-07 17:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by roganddeb2001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good Question!!
Mainly its because if a man wants to look good at his wedding he has one choice unless he is gaelic. (Which means he can either wear a tartan or saffron kilt!)
that choice is a good morning suit! With or without tails.
The bride has the choice of about 3 million dresses!
Need i say more?
(I should also like to point out that women lose their sex life, social life, the right to have any money and any opinions once they marry - so it sort of is even stevens!!!)
2006-12-08 13:56:35 · answer #11 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋