I've already come out to them, and their acceptance only seems to be in words. In reality, I can still feel that they want me to be straight. They won't even allow me to enter into a relationship with the same sex.
2006-12-07 16:35:00 · 9 answers · asked by ian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Obviously they arent completely ok with it. I dont know your age, but it sounds like you still live in their house right? I know it sucks,but you have to follow their rules & respect them as long as you live there. You cant make them understand, but just be patient, eventually they should come around. Ask them how they would feel if they woke up tomorrow, and most of the world was suddenly backward, end people were telling them it was wrong that they loved eachother. I remember when my brother came out, I asked him how he knew he was gay, and he asked me how I knew I was strait...That was all it took for me to get it. Dont make it personal, it sounds like they love you and they are trying to understand. Maybe they think you are to young for a relationship in general. Give them time & respect, and know you wont live there forever. You have lots of time to date and find somone great. It is amazing how many people will use time and energy to speak out about how two people want to love each other. Be confident in who you are, know your self, and be proud. Good luck! Remember, as parents, we all have an idea of what we want our kids to become, and it takes a while when things dont turn out as we imagined.
2006-12-07 16:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Cris Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you "persuade" them? You can't.
And you shouldn't even worry about it.
It's THEIR problem, not yours.
In time they will most likely come to "accept" it as they realize it's not just a phase and not going to change.
And what do you mean they won't "allow you" to enter into a gay relationship? Are you a minor? If so then they do have some control for now. But they can't watch you every minute of every day. If you want a relationship bad enough you'll get around that very small obstacle.
If you're not a minor then why are you allowing them to control your relationships?
2006-12-08 00:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not too sure about dealing with this situation however having gay friends puts me in the position to understand. In your position I would stand my ground, watch out to not over compensate(ie speaking out loud about things that would make them feel uncomfortable eventhough it really shouldnt) for their ignorance or it could well blow up. Best thing is take one stride at a time and hope that with time understanding and acceptance would come. It seems that they dont quite want to face the facts (hence confronting the situation head on might backfire), so give it time to let it sink in.
2006-12-07 21:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by shameer1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bother trying to change their minds, just tell them that you do not feel being gay is wrong and ask them to respect that. And if your asking because you are gay, then tell them what you have chosen for your life and ask them to love you even if they don't agree with your decisions about how you wish to live your life. Ive found that the best way to get through to a person is with love and respect of their choices and opinions just because you disagree about something doesn't mean you have to stop loving them.
2006-12-07 16:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by sappyflapjack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family may never really accept you being gay. some people can never change.who u want to be with is your own decision. i am a w/f and have always dated outside of my race.i love all the colors of the people. i just was not attracted to a white male b4 my first hubbie was black and that did not sit very well with my parents,my mom came around,but i think becuz i got preg. w/twins early in my relationship.my dad didn't even come to my wedding and u know what i didn't care.the 1st time he met my hubbie was when i was admitted to the hospital to have my boys.
my dad was raised in a very,very violent home,my grandpa was in the KKK,i never met him.he died years b4 i was born. my dad was not prejudice,not until i starting dating .then he got really pissed off. my current hubbie now is half jap and they still do not really approve both men r good guys except my ex went crazy when we were goin thru our divorce,and now my dad still thinks bad about b/guys becuz of that and he dosen't take care of his kids.u need to be happy don't let your family cause u any reason not to be yourself and date who u want even if u need to do it behind thier backs for alittle bit. if they love u then they will love u no matter what.
2006-12-07 21:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by jennafurluv27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not persuade them and they don't have to accept it either. As long as they accept you and treat you lovingly you can't expect more.
Face it, they had a plan laid out for you. A expectation of what your life would be like and you've thrown them a BIG curve ball. Let them adjust and come to terms with it.
2006-12-07 16:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by lolabunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray tell, what reaction did you expect? You don't state your age but I have a feeling there is more to this than what you are stating. If you are under 18 you are dealing with an issue that is not yet confirmed (regardless of what you think about that).
2006-12-07 16:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talaga naman kasing mali yun. Magpakalalake ka na lang, wala ng problema. Mahal ka lang ng pamilya mo, at ayaw ka lang nilang mapasama.
2006-12-07 18:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Paw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could show them flying pigs and go for a vaction of the frozen fields of hell
it is wrong
2006-12-07 16:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋