How important is for you guys to have your parent's trust?

Question

I am in my early 20s and my mom has hinted and told me that she doesn't trust me. I have never given them cause to not trust me and it hurts to know that my parents don't trust me. I pretend that I don't care but I do. I need help to stop caring. What would someome do in my situation.

Answer 1

I think most parents that have kids your age or younger trust their kids, but not completely. It's nothing personal, but there are bad influences in the society nowadays that scare parents--say--smoking, drugs and so on, which cause parents to be paranoid no matter what.

Personally, I don't think your mom doesn't trust you or anything (in the case you haven't done anything wrong.) Are you in college? If so, it is pretty hard for parents for not knowing what's up with their kids when they are away, isn't it.

In my case, it is important, but not that important anymore.

Answer 2

You are 20 year old adult.... You are old enough to decide for yourself what you want to do and how you want to do it and so forth... Unless there is drugs in the picture here and things in the home are comeing up missing due to that then I could see why your parents don't trust you.. But if you are a young man who works or goe to college and lives at home well I think you need to learn to trust your parents more and let them know what is going on with you. because your parents know somehting that you don't know they know about you... find out what it is and then start all over.,..

Answer 3

There may be something in your past that doesn't agree with them, and it causes them not to trust you. Why don't you just sit your mom down and have a talk with her? Find out exactly what's going on. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 4

Of course it's important for you to have your mom's trust.
It's a sign of respect and love.
If she doesn't trust you, then indirectly she's not respecting your decisions and can not love you unconditionally.

I'm 32 now. I tried for 27 years to gain my parents, trust.
Yeah sure i made alot of mistakes. But most of them was because i had an attitude of 'oh well, my parents think i do it anyway.'
Don't go that way.
Know who you are and don't drop your standards just because she thinks you have.

I have learned to love them for who and what they are.

If I've done nothing wrong, then it's their insecurities that are binding them. And no matter how hard i try I'm not going to change them.

If it's something I've done wrong, then i go to them and talk to them about it.
3 years ago i apologized to them for things i did 14 years ago.
And it's just brought us closer.

Answer 5

Do not stop caring. Go to your Mom and ask her what you did to lose her trust. Don't keep your thoughts especially ones that mean so much to you inside. Talk to your Mom, if she has a legitimate complaint then ask her what you can do to regain her trust, that alone will help her to trust again................Good luck...................HC

Answer 6

It is important to have someones trust, especially parents.......

There's still time for you to get things well........try to get back their faith on you.........do the things that they trusted u on......i d't think its that hard isn't it.............

Everything is up to u.......u want to gain their trust, do and accomplish as they say......otherwise just ignore and move on with ur life.....let them see what u've achieved in the end and be happy with that........

Providing that ur goin on the right path...........

Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

If you're financially dependant on them then trust is important. Otherwise it doesn't matter what they think

Answer 8

She's your mother and you probably will always care what she thinks of you. BUT you are also an adult and you need to live your life for you not your mother.