a girl i've known for 20 years and have had a teenage relationship with slept with me last week after she was dumped by her boyfriend who is also a pretty good friend but one i've only known for 9 months we've hung out and been to bed a few more times since that night but tonight is my birthday and i called in sick to work just to be with her she said she'd meet me but didn't show and now i found out she's going to hang out with the guy that just dumped her is it worth even getting pissed about or should i just say the hell with the whole situation should i even still consider her an option or even a friend should i trust her when she calls tomorrow and tells me nothing happened and i know she will tell me that what should i do?
2006-12-07 16:18:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know her well so don't ask what happened and don't comment if she says nothing happened. You will be around long after the other guy is forgotten. Don't throw away 20 years of friendship.
2006-12-07 16:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you trust her if she tells you what you feel in your gut is a lie? Of course not, especially considering her actions.
If she lies to you, that fact alone should indicate to you whether any sort of relationship with her, friendship or otherwise, would be worth your time. From your description, it sounds like she's wasting your time, and that's valuable, so, yeah, I'd be angry about that, even if she was only a friend.
When you say should you consider her an option, what do you mean? An option for what? Should you consider her as an option for a serious relationship? There answer here is "NO". Everyone can do better than a liar.
It sounds like, from what you've provided in your question, that you were used. The idea of that might make you angry if you wanted more from her than sex. But, here's something to make you feel better about the situation: think about her boyfriend. Do you think he knows that she had sex with another guy? Lol, absolutely not. So, he's the bigger sucker here. Be glad you're not him.
2006-12-08 00:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Venzen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I am going to keep it real with you. it was just sex. Which that means there was no strings attached. You need to realize that when someone is in a break up situation they are likely to find someone who they can feel love by. They need comfort and that who you were to her. A friend that can just confront her.
What you need to do is let the whole thing go. Shes in love and in pain so just be a friend to her. If you love her so much as a friend or whatever try to be there but not be in her. Ok? She was just confused.You should of put your foot down and just be there for her.Just let her know how you feel and tell her that you are not up to the peddy games.
2006-12-08 00:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by rican mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the fact that she slept with you while on the rebound. I think she really loves that other guy & probably used you to make him jealous. The fact that it was your birthday that she stood you up on was just a coincidence of timing & bad luck for you. Sh was probably going to do it regardless of what day it was. It was simply a matter of when they were going to make up. I think she will start trying to convince you that there will be no future for the 2 of you in a friendly way so that your feelings somehow doesn't get hurt to mend her own guilt but I advise you not to be that weak to give her the chance. You need to kick her to the curb before she gets that satisfaction. Good Luck moving on.
2006-12-08 00:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's on the rebound...leave it alone. I have had this happen to me. A woman who is/was a good friend breaks up and seeks comfort with someone she knows. She might be doing it to piss the boyfriend off or just because she doesn't want to be alone.My suggestion is let her call you..if she does go for it. Play it cool and see what happens.
2006-12-08 00:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by BuckNeked 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, happy birthday :)
second, here's what i think you should do. if you are a nice kind of guy who doesn't just sleep with any girl, respects women, and wants to build a lasting relationship with a quality, mature, real woman..then say goodbye. it sounds like this girl should get herself together before she has another relationship with any guy. don't you want someone who cares it's your birthday and wants to make it the best day for you and wouldn't dream of not being there? on the other hand, if you don't really care and approached the relationship in a laid back sleep with whoever kind of attitude, then you get what you ask for I guess. it sounds to me though like you cared about her.. and if you did, it's time to find someone who will appreciate that.
2006-12-08 00:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by corinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sleeping with a woman in a relationship. You do deserve the nasty brush - off. get your own woman and leave the whore alone. She will find another guy to help heal her wounds the next time she gets in a fight with her old man.
2006-12-08 00:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u were just a friend w/benefits thing. something of a fling. cuz she needed some comfort after breaking up. now she just wants to make up with her bf. so ur gonna be thrown away. move on. ur not gonna be finding a deeper relationship here.
2006-12-08 00:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD JUST LEARN FROM THIS WHEN YOU DEAL WITH
SOMEONE THAT JUST BROKE UP REALLY IS LOOKING
FOR ANYTHING TO DEAL WITH THE WHAT GOING ON;
BUT KNOW YOU KNOW SHE NOT THE ONE FOR YOU,
AND TRUST ME, THE SITUATION WILL NOT GET ANY BETTER
WHEN SHE COME BACK TO TO YOU WHEN HE DUMP HER
AGAIN. SO MOVE ON. AND HAVE A HAPPY BIRTHDAY,
2006-12-08 00:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,find your own girl and Stop using someone Else's.
2006-12-08 00:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋