see i am one of those that in class i am not shy i talk to out loud i am a person who just like to you know to talk but when it comes to talk to women its like i forget everything and its like every time i talk to women only boring topics comes up...why is that happening to me how can i change it cause its killing me sometimes.
2006-12-07 16:17:02 · 13 answers · asked by klaycon1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you shouldnt try so hard..say whatever comes to mind..talk about sports,weather,movies,teachers...talk to her like shes one of the guys..you'll be surprised that most girls are actually in to sports and things like that..some times you dont have to always talk to enjoy their company either...let her talk..cause that is what we are good at
2006-12-07 16:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by angelbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about talking to women and just talk to people, women are just people ya know. Forget about using any lines or trying to be smooth. If that is how you are then OK but do not try to fake anything. Coming from the heart is always best and you sound like the nice intelligent guy with a sense of humor that we are all looking for anyway. So take a deep breath or two to calm yourself and then say what you would say to anyone. If it helps think of it as talking to your sister, aunt, cousin,or some female you are already comfortable talking with and you will be just fine.
2006-12-07 16:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably not the talking thats killing you, its probably the other things going on in your head, and hormones. Your goal then is to experience that they are people, persons.
You have an idea that drives an excitement and an emotional high that interferes with your thinking. If you can get a different idea, and one more grounded in reality, then you might be able to have more real conversations.
Take the wisdom of Yoda. Put your mind on "where you are" "what you are doing" and not what your relationship could become, or where it could go, or what they are thinking of you. Be real, be who you are, and make that your focus. Focus on the real things, and not the imagined, hoped for, or possible.
You have to hold life in an open hand, you cant grab it.. it slips through your fingers. If you give yourself to it, and hold it with an open hand, you can have some truly remarkable experiences.
2006-12-07 16:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... I'm not sure how old you are, but I believe that most of us can think of times in our adolescence when we felt like hopeless social morons.
Most women really appreciate good listeners. So, practice being a good listener, and say encouraging things like, "Wow! That is fascinating!" "You are remarkable!" "I appreciate ___ about you" Anytime you really, deeply listen to what someone is saying and then acknowledge their feelings (listen for the feelings), you will be appreciated. They will feel cared about and unique.
If you want to have interesting things to talk about, then observe the people who do have interesting things to talk about... how do they introduce their topics? Start finding out about things you are interested in .... I'm not sure how old you are but it doesn't hurt to know that women's largest sex organ is their brain... if you have a passionate interest in something that will be interesting in itself. What do you want to learn about? Mechanics? Computers? Cosmetology? Astronomy? Learn more. Borrow videos from the library, check it out online, read books, hang with others who know about that kind of stuff (they are called 'mentors'). Take charge of your own learning.
Then just relax and enjoy being a young turk at the outset of a great adventure called Life.
All the best,
HealthiaCynthia
Certified Comprehensive Coach
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2006-12-07 16:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice talking with your friends. Try to rehearse in your head what you're going to say as well. Also try to find women who share your interests. What the use talking to a woman who doesn't share any interests with you?
2006-12-07 16:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by MoMo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol. You dunt hevta get all nervous. I mean, there are some gurlz out there that like shy, timid guyz (like me ;D). You dunt hevta worry, and dunt try changing ureself. Just wait for the woman that'll accept u for who u are to come along.
2006-12-07 16:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Bubble T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just nervous! dont try too hard, girls are human beings too! if you cant find a topic about what you like, then instead, ask her about what she likes, you might find that you have some things in common with each other, remember-- girls love talking, so its good to listen as well! if you listen to her, when it comes your turn, she'll listen to you! good luck!
2006-12-07 16:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by ishida25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a girl, try to talk to us by talking about what we do... what we're interested in... our stories... we like it when you take an interest in our lives. and share a little bit about yourself too. other interesting topics will come up... good luck talkin' to da ladies!
2006-12-07 16:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by lil' hil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dummy! You don't talk to women about stupid stuff that you like, you talk to them about THEM! That's what they want to hear. Just talk about them and you are in.
2006-12-07 16:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just imagine you are talking with your best friend. What would you say to someone you feel comfortable with. You are intimidated by woman. Don't be that way, i am sure they are just as nervous as you are. Good luck...........................HC
2006-12-07 16:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋