I have already caught a few different times. Like, he wouldnt clear out the history on it. Then when I front him on it, of course, he denies it. It just really makes me mad that he does this. It has kind of eased off a little but I am sure he gets on there from time to time.
2006-12-07 16:13:58 · 21 answers · asked by Amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs some sexual satisfaction.
2006-12-07 22:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like the bf is embarrassed by someone knowing he is watching porn.....in this case that someone is you.
The whole subject of sex is full of mystery and confusion.
I imagine due to his embarrassment he wants to deny that he watches porn. If you come at him making him wrong you will just compound the issue. Lighten up and ask him to discuss the why and don't get into make wrong...communicate.
As to the why, that's a complex issue and I don't have the willingness to take the time via this forum.
How about this, we have a thing called a body and the body has the urge to make other bodies via sex and that urge is reinforced by the feels good thing...note I said we 'have' a body, we, the spirit get confused and get into I am a body thing, lots of conflict there.
Enough, just don't make him wrong, communication can help straighten this out for both of you.
2006-12-07 16:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by noel_1939 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i can understand why you wouldn't want him to watch porn. the idea of him "enjoying" other women could almost be seen as "unfaithful." but, you have to realize that he IS your boyfriend, and if he didn't have any interest in you, he would not still be with you.
something to understand is that (almost) every guy watches porn. and your boyfriend is no exception. he does not mean anything negative towards you by watching it, it's just something that he enjoys.
second of all, the reason behind him hiding it could be that he would be embarassed by the idea of you knowing he watched it, or that he simply doesn't want to upset you.
i don't know how long you two have been dating, or how "deep" your relationship is, but depending on whether or not you are at a point where you two are doing the things that he is looking at on his computer could also be a reason that he is hiding it from you.
if you two aren't doing those things, he is probably also using it as an outlet to "relieve tension" so that he doesn't end up trying to put you into the situation before you are ready. also, its a great source to learn things and have some idea of what is going on, so at least once it does happen, its not AS terrible as it would have been without any knowledge before hand.
if you two are doing those things, then he's probably still using it as an outlet to "relieve tension," but also, once again, guys just watch porn. its something that we all (mostly) do.
to conclude, i would like to say that i've been with my girlfriend for three and a half years. and i've been watching porn longer than we've been dating. and i've continued to do it throughout our relationship. at first, i didn't want her to know, mostly for the reasons i listed above. but as we grew closer and more comfortable with eachother, it became a known fact, and i have no reason to hide it from her becuase she knows that SHE is the one that i care about, and generally, i'm thinking of her anyways. its something that we're both comfortable with now.
so don't take it as a personal thing, because its not. when you confront him, don't do it in an angry manner, and tell him that you would rather him be honest than lie to you about it, becuase you've already seen it, so you know its there. once you two can both accept the fact that he likes porn and both of you know, it will make it aot easier.
that is all.
2006-12-07 16:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by dr. drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys look at porn but to lie about it isnt right. How will you feel if he admits it? I dont care if mine looks at it but not all the time that would be an insult to me. He admits he has checked it out but doesnt do it all the time. This was an issue just recently in my house. I ran a scan on my pc and came up w/all this spyware from porno sites and I mean loads of it so I confronted him and he denied so I did a history on my pc and his and nothing came up in the last month. Someone told me this spyware can come up from sites that are not related. He was innocent and I apologized. I think the biggest issue is him possibly lieing to me and me thinking more of him but whew its all ok and it was a total misunderstanding.
2006-12-07 16:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody seems to have mentioned the real issue...your mistrust and insecurity. Why are you snooping around? Is this a shared PC or is it his PC? Is he not allowed any privacy? If his habit is not interfering with your relationship or his other daily activities, then what does it matter?
You could just let it be and not mentioned it. Now he will search for better ways to sterilize the PC after viewing adult sites. You've just sent his activities more underground. If viewing porn was a big issue for you, this is something you should have discussed at the beginning of your relationship.
2006-12-08 00:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All guys watch porn. You need to realize this fact and move on. I guess that can't really be a true fact. Most if not almost all guys watch porn. The rest wish they could or don't know about porn or they would watch it as well. It's normal, you gotta understand that it's normal, unless it's done excessively. Why not try watching some porn with him.
2006-12-07 16:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends: do you mind him watching porn? If you made a big stink about it, then he's just gonna want to do it more, but not tell you,because he doesn't want you to get mad at him. If it's the hiding it from you that is bothering you, let him know you don't mind if he watches porn, but you don't like the hiding and lying.
2006-12-07 16:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all guys look at porn. Everyone needs to stop generalizing.
If he knows you dislike him looking at it and lying about it, and won't change, there's nothing else you can do about it. He should respect your opinion.
2006-12-07 16:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by argylemoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause guys are horny! they are just curious creatures. I knew my husband was doing it so I downloaded porn on Limewire for him. Sometimes we watch it together and sometimes we just talk about it. It opened communication for us and we can talk more about fantasies and like/dislikes, etc.
Added bonus - it's not as fun for him to do it behind my back because it's not a secret anymore.
2006-12-07 16:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is afraid u would be angry at the fact that he has it. He is probably not comfortable knowing u know he has porn. If u tell him its fine or whatever he probably wont be so ashamed
2006-12-07 16:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz he doesnt want you to kick a big fuss about why is he jerking off to porn when he has you. and about arent you good enough for him, as well as are those porn actresses better than you.
2006-12-07 16:17:32 · answer #11 · answered by monofinity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋