ok. So I started going out with this guy, Chris, back in May. And I've liked him since the first time I met him back in 2002. But he was going out w/ this girl for 6 1/2 years and they were engaged for a year and a half. Well, once they were done, we hung out and became involved. Well, we went out for almost 5 months and the first 2 1/2 months were GREAT and we loved each other. And than he came to me and told me that he cheated on me w/ his ex and this is when he became distant. And stopped hanging out w/ me and seeing me as often. Well. I told him that if he was willing to work on this relationship, than I was, and because he came to me about the situation right away, I gave him a second chance. And we went out for another month and a half or so. And than all of a sudden, back in September, he broke up w/ me. And I'm crushed because I love him so much and don't understand how things could get so bad so fast. I want to know if he'll come back to me. I feel he's the one.
2006-12-07 15:55:52 · 14 answers · asked by Justine M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is though, she's cheated on him so many times when they were together and I just don't understand why he'd keep going back to her and all that. lately he's been spending a lot of time w/ her and she's been trying to get him back by buying him things and now all of a sudden he doesn't want anything to do w/ me.
He said he doesn't want to talk to me for a while and I haven't called him in over a week.
I'm trying to respect his boundaries since he said he need time to think when he first broke up w/ me. And he's not sure if we'd be able to get back together again and when I asked him if this was all fake he said "no it was real" and than said "I was just a rebound kinda thing"
2006-12-08 10:04:05 · update #1
Lose him if you know what's good for you. Run for the hills.
2006-12-07 15:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go as far as to say that he's the one because if he was he wouldn't have cheated in the first place. Old flames are hard to get over though I understand that but maybe he need time to get her out of his system. Don't wait on this guy, go out and date other people. Guys don't generally like the girls who are around for their disposal. Date other guys and I grantee you that at some point he will want you back and who knows you may find another guy who wont cheat on you and he might be the one. You may miss Mr. Right if Mr. Right Now is in the way. Oh, and by the way when one guy breaks up with you don't forget there is another 1000 guys standing behind him waiting in line.
2006-12-08 00:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by clg454 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not te one. Lets face it, if after dating just a few months he cheated, he's not the one. He didn't even give your relationship a chance, before he started cheating. I know its hard to accept the fact that you need to move on, but it will be harder if he comes back and you get married and then you are home nights wondering what he is doing and why he isnt coming home. Of course in the back of your mind, you would know why he's not home. Find someone that loves you and wants to be with you and you only.
2006-12-08 00:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by roganddeb2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry had to edit my answer because I misread the question at first. Well i'm no psychic but I do know that if he cheated on you once, then he might do it again. It sounds like he is just playing around with you and cant make up his mind. Only you can decide how much you are willing to put up with.
2006-12-07 23:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you mention something to him like "marry". He is not ready.
He probably come back and, go again when thing gets more involve than he expected.
2006-12-08 00:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tenny S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear he is not the one. You will hurt for a little bit and be alone for a little bit. Follow the path of your talent and you will find your love. don't settle because he is worth the wait.
2006-12-07 23:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, all this guy has been doing is stringing you along. He's not worth your time. I can see him coming back for another month, then breaking it off again. That's his pattern.
2006-12-07 23:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater you dont need to be a psychic to figure that out
2006-12-07 23:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Atllas 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wil come back...for sex. Then he will leave again. The he will come back ..for sex. Just like a yo yo he pulls your string and you bounce right back to him.
2006-12-07 23:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres the best answer to your question.
"If you love him,let him go,if he comes back to you the love is true"
Let him go.
Thats how real love works.
2006-12-08 00:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋