I have a 17 mo old daughter. She does not listen when we say no if she touches something she shouldn't, throws a toy b/c she's frustrated. My dh seems to be able to use his voice to make her understand but then sometimes she repeats the bad behavior. I know she's testing us but at 17 mo. - does she really understand we are trying to correct this and that she's doing something wrong? if so, why does she keep repeating these behaviors. Any suggestions of how to handle this. Anyone, please??
2006-12-07 15:53:21 · 14 answers · asked by mommyofee090503 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No it is not, not to harsh but be consistent. Let her know now that no means no and you will be glad you did.
2006-12-07 15:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most children understand more than adults think they do. Sounds like she is expressing her independence and you're right, she is testing you. Have you noticed whether she does it more when someone else is around?as if she's testing you to see if you will reprimand her in front of others? have you tried timeout? Timeout is not a punishment, but a time for the child to be removed from the situation & to calm down.Even if she has to miss out on some activities, maybe she will remember not to do them next time.A good rule of thumb is 1 min. for each year of age. At 17 mos., that would mean about a minute and a half. Or you could try putting up a favorite toy for a set amount of time or until she can behave better. Good luck!
2006-12-07 16:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sherri L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is too young to discipline a child. I also have an 17 month old and he if very stubborn. He will purposely do something when he has been told over and over not to, and then run when you go to discipline him. He knows that he was wrong, but I believe all children at this age want attention and want to see how far they can push their parents or caregivers. I am a firm believer in sticking with punishment , not just saying you are going to do something and not doing it. They know, to a point, what they are doing. Good luck!
2006-12-08 03:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by niki j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Kids can't really understand self control, full cause/effect until they are a little over 2 yrs old. Just remove your child from the situation that is upsetting you (when she spits, hits, fights, etc) and re-direct her attention to something appropriate like coloring, hugging, reading, playing with toys, etc.
It's up to you as a parent to help direct her attention. If she has a meltdown, just safely put her in her crib or room and let her vent until she is done. Then resume playing.
I've read tons of parenting books for babies/toddlers and you can't instill REAL discipline techniques until about 26 months.
2006-12-07 18:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Falina T. Rayon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best way I have found to discipline a 17 month old baby is not to. They are too young to understand and saying no a lot is not good either. You should put anything that poses a danger up or away, make barricades if needed, and make less temptations for your baby's curiosity. Sometimes you can just distract her with other things like try pulling her away from the danger and playing her favorite game. That almost always works for me.
2006-12-07 16:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by shawna 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A child traditionally does not reason this behavior until 2 years. She is pushing, establishing her rights etc. You should not spank! Not at this stage. What we did was a small timeout, 1-2 minutes. Hug, kiss, momma loves you but don't touch the Christmas tree and back up. Worked well
Good Luck
Amy
2006-12-07 17:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she definitely is not too young to understand discipline. try getting on her level when she does the behavior and sternly saying "NO!" then explain what she did that was wrong. i.e. she throws a toy you get down to her eye level and say "no! we do not throw things!" as she gets older timeouts will help much more. you can also take the toy away and not letting her play with it
2006-12-07 15:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
http://www.smartmomma.com/Toddler/discipline.htm
Please look at the above website.
Also, kids this age have little (to no) impulse control. So, even if she understands the concept of 'no' and knows that she shouldn't do whatever behavior, she does it anyway because she can't control her impulses.
As the website I posted says, redirection and distraction are really the best way to stop unwanted behavior. Lastly, keep in mind that if 'no' is used to often it becomes meaningless to them.
2006-12-07 19:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she does understand. When my son started crawling and he tried to put stuff in his mouth, i'd slap his hand. It sure hurts a hell of a lot less than choking and death. When he'd try to go for the outlets i'd slap his hand and say no no. Hurts a lot less than being electricuted. My son is now nine and I rarely ever have to discipline him now. He hasn't had a spanking since he was two. If you pet your daughter too much you may end up raising another monster.
2006-12-07 15:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not too young to start time-outs. Strap her into her booster chair and put her in the corner. It worked for my son at that age. He got time outs for throwing food on the floor and when he refused to pick it up he got the time out. When the timeout was over he got down and picked up his food. He turned 2 in Aug and doesn't throw food on the floor anymore.
2006-12-07 15:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is to young to DISCIPLINE a 17 month old they dont understand the concept yet. just correct the behavior with a no. no matter how many times over and over again.babys are smart and will pick up fast always remember possitive reenforcement for something done right and being good.
2006-12-07 15:59:33 · answer #11 · answered by billycatnayla 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋