I think they are smart because they know they cannot afford to keep waiting for the ideal man to come about. And they grab when a decent one come along, for some they are blessed with the choice they made and live happily ever after.
what do u think?
2006-12-07 15:48:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
hmm i think u read me wrongly. What i am trying to say is that for gals unless they want to remain as singles then full stop, I have nothing to say. But on the contrary if they do desire and look forward to a marriage, then they should not wait till age 30 just to start to look for a bf seriously.
At younger age of say 27, it is easy to keep thinking its ok, but when come to age 30 for gals, age is definitely not on your side. simple maths, when u are 33, guys who are much younger are out, i mean for a norm. u get what i mean??
2006-12-07 16:09:01 · update #1
Finding the right one? Hmm.. Frankly I cannot really agree on this point. There are many women who did settle down b4 age 30 and yes there is certainly high divorce rates altogether, but that got to do with how both party are willing to sacrifice to make the marriage work.
My bottomline question is gals can continue to find, but by 35 it is just too late. For guys, i can always find gals who are 6 yrs younger than me and within. But for gals, u need to scale up instead. Commonsense. Yes u might find guys who are younger than u by all means. So, don't wait, as a good guy come along, take the opportunity and move along.
2006-12-07 18:41:06 · update #2
im 20 and getting married in 1.5 years. i guess i knew straight away wen i meet my fiance. the feeling, the connection, comittment, sacrafices & understanding of each other. ull no. a relationship that was neva like the ones before. Weve been out for 2 half years, live together & we still give gudnyt & morning kisses everyday. love you babe if your ever reading.
2006-12-07 20:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by watevergal20s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, us women have the biological clock to think about too! If you don't marry until after age 30, chances are you won't get a whole lot of time to just enjoy married life--before children (if you want them...). Medically, having children after 35 carries much more risk. So I think most of us do end up marry before 30 because not only do we want to enjoy married life, but also to consider having children at a decent age.
Don't forget...some of the guys we meet are quite self centered and immature...so it does take us a lot of time to find the right one...
2006-12-07 17:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. when you find the right one, you keep them. some find them earlier than others. some get confused & think they are the one... but thats a whole different story. it has nothing to do with settling for most people. some do "settle", but that is arguable as to who...
by the way, i met my husband when we were 17... after 7 years of dating, we finally got married. yeah, we don't entirely understand ourselves, let alone each other... but who ever really does? we grow together and learn how to understand things together. isn't that what marriage is all about? it was never about settling, but about being so well suited for each other. it was like we COULD live without each other, but would really really rather not do that. it wasn't about having SOMEONE, but about having EACH OTHER. it just made sense.
i think i got married young-- i hear of people i graduated with married for 5 years already with several children... i think to myself, wow... so soon... the crazy thing is, it isn't so soon. it depends upon the person!
by the way, 27 is close to 30. there isn't that much of a difference between the two.
2006-12-07 16:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 34 and never married. I think "settling" is the dumbest thing one can do when it comes to the choice of a life partner. I did not have a long term relationship for seven years; just a few weird dates. I am now involved with a wonderful man. He was worth the wait and I can see us getting married. For the record he is 36 and never married.
2006-12-07 15:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Are you kidding me? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they get married before 30 yrs of age because it is expected of them. When my sister hit 27, finding a man and getting married was all pipoh kept telling her to do. There is this crazy idea that once you hit 30 you kind of "expire", so most will want to avoid that.
I think that age should not be a determining factor on when to get married, if you are worried about childbearing, go ahead and get a child in your 20's and get married at your own pace.
2006-12-07 16:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sittle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if MOST gals are married before they turn 30. My sister turned 30 this past year, and has just gotten engaged. My 29 year old sister still isn't even dating someone seriously. I was 21 when I got married, but that was 20 years ago. I think everyone does what works for them. I met my hubby when I was right out of college, and it just worked out.
2006-12-07 15:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
32...not married...living in sin. Yep, I'm happy.
I'm so glad I didn't get married in my 20's. If I found the guy I'm with now, I probably would have gotten married back then.
I think that lot of woman are naive in their 20's, hence the divorce rate. They think getting married is the thing to do. Then they realize...oops! This isn't what I thought marriage was all about.
2006-12-07 16:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by moobiemuffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women don't want to have children until they get married. Having children after age 35 can be risky for the health of the child. So, the earlier, the better.
Plus, some women want to have children earlier in life.
(Yes, I am equating marriage with childbearing. I know it is not entirely accurate.)
2006-12-07 15:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same right here.Me too an Indian gal. i've got faith a female shud get married merely after the age of 25-27.no longer in the previous that.It will become complicated for a girl to make changes along with her new relatives if she isn't used to joint - relatives systems especialy if she has to flow with the aid of et al. yet i've got faith the hubby must be elder by employing a minimum of a yar by using fact (no harm meant) women mature quicker than men.that's less complicated for women.desire it helps.
2016-12-30 03:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think settling is it at all. I would figure that most 'gals' are out of home by 22 (or 18) and they have had a few years to see what's out there.. I think it is just the law of stastics that in 8 - 12 years you just FIND the ONE that you are looking for.. It doesn't ALWAYS happen like that of course, but I think we are wired genetically to reproduce in our twenties and thirties so that just happens to be the age when most 'gals' get married.
2006-12-07 16:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋