I think I love one of my best friends?

Question

I’m 20 and I have this friend who’s 23, I’ve known her for like 2 years and I’ve always found her extremely attractive. But recently I've been unable to deny that I am completely in love with her.
We spend lots of time together and got along “partner in crime” style and she’s ******* HILARIOUS.
I’ve hit on her a couple times before and she always responds well, like she giggles and twirls her hair and such (that’s good, right?).
I know that she my very good friend. but does she love me back? How do I tell?

I know people are going to say “just tell her!”, but there are PROBLEMS.
She has a boyfriend who’s 33 that she’s been dating for like 3 years and she gets along with him super well (so do I actually). On top of that IF I were to tell her and she didn’t feel the same way not only I would be DEVISTATED but I know that we may not ever be able to get along the same way we do now.
I cannot deny the fact that I love this girl, so "letting it go" is no good.
HELP ME PLEASE!

Also when I’m at bars and whatnot with her she sometimes tries to set me up with good looking girls who she claims “want *** tonight”, does this mean something?

Answer 1

Maybe her trying to fix yuo up is her way of testing to see if you are the type of guy that is looking to just get laid. Next time she does it, tell her that you already have your eye on someone. when she ask who, tell her its a girl that is a good friend and that is why you haven't made a move. Continue with this type of conversation until she realizes that you are talking about her. If she says she's flattered, but already has a man, then you can tell her that is why you never told her your feelings, because you didnt want to mess up what she already had. Who knows, she may tell you she feels the same way about you.

Answer 2

I totally feel you. I've been on both ends of that one before. When I had those feelings they just kinda stuck around and I never said anything and now we're both married but I know had I said something things would be very different now. You just have to let her know or one day you'll be at her wedding and you wont be the guy standing next to her. As far as her trying to set you up with other girls it could be one of two things: she either wants you to have someone so you wont be alone (so you'll leave her alone) or she is just a cool chick and just because you guys aren't together (if she feels the same way) doesn't mean she wants you to go without. Hope that helped.

Answer 3

I really don't think you should get in the middle of her and her boyfriend of 3 YEARS.

If things fall apart between them, THEN you can make your move. You don't want to break up her relationship with her boyfriend... because remember, what goes around comes around.

You will feel really bad if you end what she's got with someone else. How would YOU like it if someone broke up YOUR relationship. It's not a very humane thing to do.

If in the end, things don't work out for her and that guy, you two can give it a try. A great friendship is the way to a great love. I've been friends with MY boyfriend for over a year and we've been together for almost 10 months.

Answer 4

hmm thats a tough one. She may have the feelings returned to you but afraid to let you on, because she has been dating other guy for awhile. Maybe just try and ask her how her relationship with him is doing, and try to pick out through her words or body language how she's feeling about it. I know its hard to hold in your feelings for your best friends, and I know from experience how devastating it is to not have the feelings returned, but if you've hit on her before and you're getting good feedback, then maybe you may have luck with her in the future.

Theres also the possibility of dropping subtle hints and see if you get a reaction out of them.
Good luck, I hope the best for you. Best friends, usually make the best lovers.

Answer 5

That's a tough one Ryan, i just went through a similar situation, fell in love with a dear friend....told her....didn't pan out. She loves me but in a different way. its sounds like that's the case with your friend, she cares for you but it might be only as a friend, remember some girls like to flirt because its fun...if you decide to tell her i wish you luck, but take it from me if it doesn't happen it wont destroy the friendship but it will hurt it. Hope it works out for you.

Answer 6

she may not love you yet, but she definitely likes you more than just a friend. girls don't twirl their hair for nothing unless they are flirty on purpose. i wouldn't rush into it, but wait for the opportune moment, you'll know when it happens. possibly she is just unsure of your feelings and doesn't want to make the first move. but SOMEBODY needs to or nothing will ever happen!

Answer 7

as i know, u've got the answer in ur own heart...
u r clever... u know wats the best way to avoid tis embrassin situation... just wait & see...
but for me, i'll move.. take my action & tell her...
it's nothing bout the boi frn or not.(they only r frend..not the husband & wife yet). just tell out my feeling on her...
who knows... she might comes to u or nt...
u afraid to ruin the frendship... but arent both of u still frens if any???
just tell her & let her know...
let her choose.........good luck

Answer 8

Wow I can't believe you can't see what you just wrote.

And its sad. She is has a boyfriend and she is trying to set you up with someone. She wants you to be happy with someone and its not her. She may like you, but that is all I see here.

Answer 9

She is your friend, she currently has a boyfriend, and wants you to be happy! Thats why she is trying to set you up with people =P

Answer 10

do they love you if tey do go out