The 1st time he told me he loved me i said ***** no u dont and he was like yea i really do. the second time he told me i said what evea and blew it off the 3rd time i said it back cus i do luv him but im not in luv u feel me but he's inluv wit me. i dont want to hurt his feeling's and retell him that i dont luv him in the way he luvs me cuz now he gon feel like i was playing with his emotions or just telling him what he want to her . i know i should'nt have done what i did just help!!!
2006-12-07 15:38:48 · 20 answers · asked by dimples74106 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Really you should break it off with him if he likes you more than you like him. If you continue on, he's only going to get hurt.
2006-12-07 15:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love.. its the most abused word. some people can just say it without really feeling it just to make the significant other happy .. its clear that u really like him but not enough to say you love him.. in ur case, its pretty hard to take it back coz he heard the words already..did u think he felt that you weren't really genuine? but if he really loves you though, he will still wait till you say it with sincerity.. give it just a little more time then maybe you will love him the way you want to or the way you should.. but dont say it again if you dont feel it yet.. im no expert but that just might be the solution.
2006-12-07 15:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by janna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your not in love with him you shoudn't let him think you are. He will only far more in love and you will hurt him when he discovers the truth, he will. Also, if you love him I'm sure you'd like to remain friends with him. Telling the truth will be the best for both of you, I'm sure you hate hiding this fact. Let him in on your thought process, apologize, and discuss whether or not you should stay together (can you grow to love him maybe?). you should be able to at least keep a good friend.
2006-12-07 15:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by V815 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard question to answer. Why are you with him if you dont love him? Do you think you can love him in the future? If not then get out of the relationship. But dont stay in the relationship just because you feel sorry for him.
2006-12-07 15:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by kitttykitti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dimples...i kno the feelin...my ex....notice i said ex...told me the same thing and this was only after like 3 months...i brushed him off like u, and told him that he couldn't possibly luv me cuz it was too soon...but he insisted...i like u had luv for him, liked him, but just knew i wasn't "in luv" with him...my advice is no u shouldn't have said it back if u really didn't mean it...u need to just tell him...cuz it isn't fair to him or u either...he wud much rather be hurt now than months down the road when he has fallen deeper in luv with u...i kno it sux, but u can't help how u feel...but u need to tell him, it won't get any easier. gud luck!
2006-12-07 15:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you boyfriend is trying in his own way to corner you and get some kind of commitment.
You probably love him but, not in the degree of love as you think worthy to tell a boyfriend.
He like you can say anything what are his actions like.
I would not put myself on the witness stand to defend my feelings.
The real point is I would probe and ask him why does he love me to determine if it meet my perception of what i qualify as love.
Relax, you have committed no crime. You want to be so clear and honest with your boyfriend and your betting yourself up.
When confronted with this again. Tell him you prefer to demonstrate your feelings in action than words. Keep quite it is going to be hard. Listen keenly for his response.
2006-12-07 15:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by cherryl w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him that you don't want to say it back until you're sure you can mean it. Tell him that you do really like him or you wouldn't be with him, but you just wouldn't feel comfortable telling him something you aren't sure you feel for him yet. Don't give him an idea that it wont happen, because there is always the chance it will, but try not to get his hopes up to be thinking that you will one day eventually mean it.
2006-12-07 15:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by memoriesareabeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound way to young to be in a serious relationship. Maybe you should explain that to him, that perhaps you both need to gain a bit more maturity and experience before being in a committed relationship. That way, you will be telling the truth and no one's feelings will be hurt.
2006-12-07 15:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him the truth. Just tell him that you DO love him you're just not ON love with him. If he really does love you then he will understand, he may be a little hurt but he'll understand. If he doesn't then I wouldn't waste anymore of you're time on him. Either way if you're honest with him you will have that weight lifted.
2006-12-07 15:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by clg454 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just gonna get worse if you don't feel the same way he does. Gonna be a one sided relationship, and if you don't feel that way you should really get out of there before it gets any worse. Leave him before he gets too attached and it ends up hurting him even more.
2006-12-07 15:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋