My boyfriend and I've (we're both 19) been together for about 2 months now, and my parents know that I've been "hanging out" with him. The thing is, my mom in particular keeps telling me to not take everything too seriously, and she keeps telling me to just be good friends and stuff. How do I tell her that we're actually serious with each other when it seems she still doesn't want me to have a boyfriend? Also, my parents are the traditional type, and quite over-protective...
2006-12-07 15:36:27 · 17 answers · asked by Crystal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a case of the "Asian parent..."
You should definitely tell your parents, because if you end up getting married to your boyfriend, they'll have to know and consent anyway. If you tell them, they'll know that you trust them to do what is best for you, and what makes you the happiest. I was never allowed to date in high school, and I didn't ask whether I could in college. I am exactly the same age as you are right now, in the same year at school. Unfortunately for my parents, I met the love of my life upon arriving here last fall. I have been with him ever since then, and we are now engaged to be married after we graduate. I told my parents about 2 months into the relationship, holding back for the same reasons that you have been-- fear of parental wrath. You are an adult now, and you want your parents to treat you like one. Tell your parents who, and how important this man is in your life-- yes-- man, not boy. You should show them that you can act like a mature young woman capable of making her own decisions. My parents surprised me after I told them by telling me that I can continue going out with him because it seemed to make me so happy-- and they said that this is what they ultimately want-- my happiness. You must believe that of your parents. So in summary (sorry I told this huge story), yes, you should trust your parents' love for you enough to tell them about this important stepping stone in your life. Best of luck with them, and in life!... and I hope much love grows between you and your boyfriend!
2006-12-07 15:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by reba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw babes, I have the same problem at the moment :( I'm 16 and been with him for 1 year and 2 months, but my dad sussed out and won't really talk about it. Tell them that your boyfriend will not interupt your school work. Your mum is likely to be happy - It's dads that are the problem. They still think of you as their little princesses, and it won't stop at that level. Give it time. How long have you been with him? Wait for about 3 months before telling your parents. Don't worry babes :) Take care x
2016-03-28 22:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 19, time to make your own choices, just tell them...
I have a 19 and 21 years old males...I told them a long time ago that i don't have to like who they date, but letting them in my house is another thing LOL...
If this guy treats you right and your parents see this, they will grow to love him....We parents are protective of our chicks, letting them out of the nest, well we are still moms and dads and want whats best for you...
2006-12-07 15:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhm well.. I've had an experience like this... My moms very over protective... she likes when u have to do things her way or else there wrong..
like being friends witha guy for like 6 months before dating him and so on
uhm... with the boyfriend I had... I asked my moms opinion of the guy.. and then told her.. he asked me out.. and .... shes like.. well what are you going to do.... because you wouldnt wanna mess it up because she seems to think this guy is like my... future husband here... but... then I was like oh ya.. me and tim are dating now...
really theres nothing she can do about it.. she can accept it or not... but really she should be happy that you are happy you know?
2006-12-07 15:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents cant be that over-protective if their letting you hang with him. But if they are and they still dont mind your with him then i think they will approve of your to becoming serious. Your mom is probably just afraid that your gonna miss out on other opportunities with guys they might think are better for you or just experiencing single life.
2006-12-07 15:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is your dinner conversation; "Hi Mom! We've been having sex on a daily basis and he tells me he loves me. I just thought that you would like to know that. Please pass the butter." When they drop the silverware, just smile and say that you are now an adult and you can make decisions on your own, even if they aren't the best because you are still young enough to learn from your mistakes. Go at em!
2006-12-07 15:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Suga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your parents the truth. They just don't want you to get hurt. Being honest is always best. You're old enough to have a boyfriend and I agree that you should take things slow.
2006-12-07 15:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be honest with them. Tell them that you are 19 and they have raised you well and you really like this guy. Tell your parents that they can trust you to make good decisions.
2006-12-07 15:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could start by talking to them and tell them exactly what's going on but be sure to use the proper words.. that way they'll realize that u've already grown up and that you wanted to be treated like an adult... that you know what you've gotten urself into and ur mature enough to handle relationships.. hopefully, they'll give you a chance
2006-12-07 15:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by janna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom how you feel. Be honest with her. You have been with for 2 months? it's inly natural that you would start to have more feelings for him. Be confident but respectful when you talk to your Mom. Good luck
2006-12-07 15:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋