I have been dating my bf for over 5 months. When we got together I did not know he had left his ex- wife a month earlier. They have a child together, and there always seem to be an issue, child support, she needing money, etc. Every other day it seems to be something new. I mean am coping and dealing with the situation to the best of my ability, but sometimes it can be tiring. I just want to hear to from anyone going through a similar situation. How do you deal with it?
2006-12-07 15:26:42 · 7 answers · asked by Linda J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be supportive and all and is intrested in him child because its a part of him only if he is giving you what you need .But Im so sure that they may reconcile or maybe not and you to will get closer how ever she will forever be in your life ................and all of the drama that comes with it
2006-12-07 15:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex is always going to be part of the picture because of the child. That will never never change. You will always be second to the childs needs that will never never change. If you can get along with the ex and accept the situation all will go well. It is handy to know her rules so that you can follow them with the kid and avoid any issues in that area.
Also depends on where you are prepared to stand in the line of his life. He has to do that stuff, its his responsibility...better than a guy who shirks it.
It is early days yet and it takes some sorting out to get through the hurdles of family breakup. Personally I feel you have come in to the picture too early.
2006-12-07 15:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made an oath with myself to not date a man with young children and a recent divorce, just because of what you are going through. Ex's can and will be vicious. Ex's love to use the kids and whatever else they can to torment the new woman. I feel for you. I don't have that kind of fight left in me. I would rather be single. Good luck
2006-12-07 15:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was friendly with a guy who had been divorced from his wife for a number of years. The kids were 16+ but no harm to him he never stopped talking about her and still holidayed with her. I liked him but had to walk away. Ive no regrets and I do hope some day he meets someone.
2016-05-23 05:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You end it. The man is rebounding. He has divorced on paper and in name only. He needs time to rediscover himself and define himself as a new single. Unfortunately, he didn't let you know he was divorcing (but I bet there were signs!) so how honest is this guy anyway? How honest are you with yourself? This is a losing proposition. All things are possible, but the odds are not in your favor. You are the get over it girl. Once he has, chances are he will be over you too. Sorry.
2006-12-07 15:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend you should realize that you are the transition woman and he probably fneeds some more time to totally get over that past relationship. I don't think their problems will stop anytime soon because they are raising a child together.
Get out while you are ahead
2006-12-07 15:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetness2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to set limits with her. If the divorce is finalized, most of those problems should be settled. After that he needs to let it go. It's not up to you, I'm afraid.
2006-12-07 15:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋