I need some advice...it's tricky?

Question

Ok. Here's the deets. I'm 24, and have been dating a guy for about 6 months now. He's sorta hinting that he wants to sleep with me (sooner rather than later). So how do I go about telling him that I'm still a virgin? (By choice mind you!) I've been through this a couple of times before, and it usually ends badly for me, with the guy either freaking out and wanting to know what's wrong with me, or laughing his *** off because he doesn't believe me. Anyone with any advice on this would be great...thanks so much!

Answer 1

What? I can't believe that those guys are so mean. There is nothing wrong with you. It would be ideal to wait longer than 6 months before having sex with him. But if you want to have sex with him, I think you should only need to tell him to take it slow because it's your first time. I still can't believe that those guys would laugh at you or freak out! I know it's kinda uncommon, but it's not that uncommon! Good night!

Answer 2

Be honest. If you've stayed pure all this time, why give in now? It's only been 6 months. If he really loves you, he'll wait. If he doesn't, then you are better off without him. Don't be embarrassed because you want to wait. Hopefully you'll wait until you're married. The way it's supposed to be. Don't let anyone make you do something you aren't ready to do. You should be proud of yourself. BE STRONG!!!

Answer 3

Does it really matter to tell someone that you're a virgin or not? I mean the reason why your thinking of sleeping with him is because you love him if not then it's pointless to just do it if you're not ready too. Your b/f doesn't really need to know that you're a virgin unless you really want to tell him.

Answer 4

Ok this is a lot easier then you think. Invite him over to dinner at your place, cook him his favorite meal and tell him that the two of you need to have the sex talk. Tell him that you are by your choice still a virgin and are saving yourself for marriage for what ever your reasons are and that until the time you say "I do" its going to stay that way. If he laughs at you then he is a jerk and dosent diserve you or if he freaks out then he is not mature enough to be with you. Make sure that you mention that you respect his decision in life and that he should respect yours. Dont be overly blunt about this, be nice and sweet. If your blunt he will freak out because you will be coming off kind of demanding and controlling. Instead of sincere.

Answer 5

Say "I'm a virgin.. and even though I would like to share my special purpose with you... you are going to have to wait a little longer."

Patty: "(she lies down on the bed) You know what I'd like to do?"
Navin: "What?"
Patty: "Guess your weight."
Navin: "Hey, that would be interesting for me, no one has tried to guess my weight! You see, I guess their weights..."
Patty: "Put your arms up."
Navin: "This will give me a whole different perspective on this. (Patty squeezes Navin's backside) Hey! You're really trying to be accurate! Is it getting hot in here? Wait a minute - what's happening to my special purpose?"
Patty: "What's your special purpose?"
Navin: "Well when I was a kid my mom told me... there goes my special purpose! And someday I'd find out what my special purpose was!"
Patty: "Today's the day!"
Navin: "(the whole trailer shakes) Hey, this is like a ride!"


Grandmother: "(reading a letter) My dear family, guess what. Today I found out what my special purpose is for. Gosh what a great time I had. I wish my whole family could have been here with me. Maybe some other time as I intend to do this a lot. Every chance I get. I think next week I'll be able to send some more money as I may have extra work. My friend Patty promised me a bl** j**b. Your loving son, Navin. (she stops reading) And he's got the kisses here."
Father: "That Patty must be a sweet girl."
Mother: "God bless her."

Answer 6

You gotta be carefull about this (if you dont want loosing ur virginity). Next time you talk about this (sex), try to use ur feminine power and show that u r soo sad about it, so he asks you what's wrong, then you drag him out on this but later u tell him that u r a virgin and u dont want to let him down, if he really loves you, this shouldn't end in a bad way. Good Luck

Answer 7

let me start off with saying GOOD FOR YOU! there's very little people now days who have so much self respect to save them selves for marriage. and about telling him my advise is if hes a decent respectable person he will respect you for your decision if he laughs or freaks out hes not worth your time!!! You can do so much better than some jerk who can't respect your decision
good luck.

Answer 8

have sex with him is the first advice.. you are missing out on some good stuff. You cant blame him for wanting to have sex , its normal, sex is a huge part of a relationship.
if you are waiting for marriage thats ok but you are a dying bread because "everyone is doing it" really fits. this sounds bad but have you ever bought a car without test driving it first. its kind of the same thing but with sex.

if all else fails then tell your newest bf upfront right away so you dont put him in an akward position.

Answer 9

"Deets?" ugh...

lol, seriously though since you've been through this multiple times you're probably the best judge.

You should find a guy at church who will respect you and not laugh at your choices.

Answer 10

I think its amazing that your still a virgin and if you dont want to give it up to this guy dont..wait till you think its right..but if you do and if you tell him your still a virgin and he finds it funny hes not worth your time..wait till you know its right i made the mistake to not keep it and i would do ne thing to get it back b.c the guy was a huge jerk..